Hi ladies! I got engaged back in December 2018, asked 5 girls to be in my bridal party, and we ended up calling off the wedding. I just got re-engaged (same guy, we’ve overcome A LOT).. do I have to re-ask the same girls or can I start all over? I feel like things have changed in the last 2 years with friendships so I’m stuck on what to do! 3 I’m still certain of but the other 2 I’m iffy 🥴
You can ask whoever you want. I don't think you are under any obligation to ask any of them if you don't want to. Your bridal party should consist of those closest to you.
I’m in the EXACT same boat as you! I ended up dropping 3 and texted them that we got back to planning the wedding and due to the restrictions on numbers we had to cut the wedding party and guest list down. 1 understood and the other 2 just said ok. Honestly the one who understood is a fake girl who is a coworker I immediately regretted and don’t ever see anymore. The other two I just grew apart from them and they weren’t really being my friends anymore. It’s fine I was done with them so I’m not heartbroken about it. I decided I’m asking 2 new girls whom I’ve always been close to and have gotten even more close with and the others since i already asked them and I know they would make my day fun and I still like them I decided to just update them when we get a new date and keep them in my party. Relationships change over time so it’s ok if you feel like you want to change it up. Do what’s best for you and what you will be happy with in the long run!
Ask whomever you want and if someone questions it, just explain that you’ve changed a lot and so has the relationship, so it felt inappropriate to request them.
Ask different girls if you don't feel close to the old ones. It's your day and you should have people you are closest with and can rely on by your side. If anyone has anything to say about it tell them your no longer that close with the other 2 girls. Just know this could cause sore feelings or worse friendships to end.
A lot can change in that amount of time. Close your eyes and picture your wedding day. Who is beside you? If it’s not the same girls, that’s okay. Go with your gut. You need to feel 100% confident in who you choose to be up there with you.
