Bridal Party

I just wouldn't have an MOH. I would feel like "second best" if I was asked to be the MOH only after someone else declines.

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I agree with Keri. I feel like she would know she wasn't your first choice

I think I wound just have all bridesmaids so that person doesn’t feel like they were your second choice.

I had to do it with my first marriage. My cousin was supposed to be my MOH but ended up in the hospital just before. My bridesmaid became my MOH..she did a good job for the most part, other than leaving me alone in a hotel the night before my wedding to go out drinking with other friends

Thank you everyone for your input! ❤️

That's such a bummer that she couldnt be apart of it. I'm glad she realized from the start that it was too much though. I had 2 girls, a long time friend and my cousin back out a few months after accepting my proposal.

My Chief Bridesmaid became my MOH. Long story, last year my best friend guilt tripped me about having 2x MOH, reason she has been the second MOH numerous times & felt that 2x ppl takes away.
My Chief Bridesmaid was my longest friend/sister in a way & I explained the situation & she was ok with is.
Well flash forward till May & my MOH decides to decline the role (she had a lot going on - & decided not to be in the wedding). My Chief Bridesmaid became the MOH. It was barely a conversation - she was like good now I don’t have to have that god awful pretend title.
Afterwards my previous MOH schedule got less hectic so she is back in the wedding party as a bridesmaid.

View Quoted Comment I had a similar situation, and my now MOH had the same reaction lol

If it's just a proposal, I think you're okay to asking someone else to fill that role. I originally had my friend of 10 years as my MOH but she had alot of anxiety over it, due to never being in a wedding party. So my other friend/bridesmaid became the MOH and my friend step down to a bridesmaid. Now she's happy, and so am I. This is a common theme it seems in wedding planning! Goodluck!

View Quoted Comment What is a chief bridesmaid?

I was in a small bridal party where the bride’s cousin (and only family member in the BP) was the MOH...until she completely bailed from the wedding a few months beforehand. I was the friend she’d known the longest and I was the most involved in wedding stuff, so she asked me to be the MOH. I was a little hurt that I wasn’t asked to be MOH originally but I understood her choosing a family member over a friend and in the end, I was honored to stand next to her on her wedding day.

Even if you don’t officially ask someone else to be the MOH, you will eventually have to pick one person to stand next to you at the alter and/or give a speech at your reception, etc. so keep that in mind...

View Quoted Comment It was something that I made up

I was once "promoted" because the MoH to be and the bride had a falling out (I don't think it was related to the wedding). I was very close to the bride, closer than the other 'maids so it made sense for me to be the MoH. You could ask the bridesmaid you are closest to, to become your MoH