Bridal Party

No have only who you want maybe she can read a poem

I think this would depend upon my relationship with my god sister. If I were close with her and felt that not making her a bridesmaid would seriously hurt her and/or damage my future relationship with her, then I would probably ask her to be a bridesmaid. It’s one of those situations where you have to weigh the cost of having her be a bridesmaid versus the fall out of not making her a bridesmaid.
Also, if you decide to extend the invitation to her, your fiancé does not need to find another groomsmen to stand on his side. Uneven wedding parties are extremely common and actually quite trendy now.

I think you can add her in as an honorary bridesmaid and let her know that it would be uneven if she was an official bridesmaid!

It's a lot from her to presume that she will be in the wedding I think. But I agree with the other posters, if it is going to cause serious family problems and issues you may have to ask her to be in the wedding as a bridesmaid. Otherwise could she do a reading or give a speech at the reception or something? Hope you can work this out .

It’s awfully presumptuous of her to tell you that she’s going to be in your wedding. If you don’t want her in your wedding party, don’t have her. As a compromise, could you find another role for her - could she do a reading or something?

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Thanks so much for your reply! I was also thinking about anther role for her. She has a bossy personality so I need to find the right role...

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Good idea!

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That's the thing. I am closer and or feel like the ladies I have standing with me represent me more. I love her and care about her feelings but having her in my wedding was never an option. I feel bad for saying that but it is the truth. I would feel more comfortable giving her a different role.

Does she think she'll be a bridesmaid? Or does she think she'll help out the day of? It's odd that she'd think she's in the wedding without being invited so.

View Quoted Comment She thinks she will be a Bridesmaid.

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Wow. In that case, I agree with the others that how you address it depends on your relationship with her. Personally, I'd try to find some other way to include her, maybe as an usher. Good luck with whatever you choose.

No. You only pick those who are in your innermost social circle of supportive people

No is a complete sentence. Next time she refers to this, say “I’ll be happy to see you there as a guest but won’t be able to accommodate your request to be in the wedding party”. Don’t give reasons or excuses, just no. Once you start explaining, she’ll come up with a solution.

View Quoted Comment Thanks so much!