Bridal party

Will there be readers or ushers that you need to assign? If so, I think those would be a great way to still have them involved! It’s how we are still getting to involve our group of friends we both close with (mix of male and female). I know people mostly think of religious ceremonies when talking about readers (not sure what yours will be), but the way I see it, there could still be a reader at a secular ceremony reading a poem or quote 🙂

Getting ready with you or FH is a great way to include them. I don't think making them ushers will make them happy since they are UNnecessary and it's more a job than a fun thing... but that's just me! Personally: should I be offered to usher , I would decline.
A reading is a good idea... if they don't fear public speaking/reading. Readings at secular ceremonies are a thing: peple read 'secular' love/marriage quotes, poems, song lyrics instead of verses from the bible or the torah.

I might ask a couple of my friends who aren't bridesmaids to wear blue and be part of my something blue that day

So my FH and I just decided to do siblings for our wedding party and then try to find other ways to include friends that would have otherwise been in the wedding party. Originally I was thinking of having them wear matching colors for photos and trying to find other ways to include them. But honestly, now that I'm right in the middle of planning and less than 6 months out, I've realized that trying to include more people in things adds stress and complications. Also, I think they will enjoy the wedding more without the restrictions. (Side note: almost every single vendor has been visibly excited over the fact that our wedding party is small and how much better/easier it is going to be for us). We are having a friend or two do a reading during our ceremony but not trying to over plan anything else. Our friends will get to enjoy our wedding and we will get to have fun with them!

View Quoted Comment Thanks! I agree with you. I just didn’t want any of my closest friends to feel left out in anyway so felt I should try to include them.