Bridal party slow dance.. Really?!

This is an old 80's thing. My FFIL was appalled that we had an uneven bridal party because of the dance.

That's weird I wouldn't wanna do it

I was in a wedding two years ago where we did this, maybe it was the open bar but I didn't mind. It's only a few minutes of your night.

I just picture a middle school dance. That's awkward

When I was in college, I was a BM in my roommate's wedding. She wanted the BMs to get to know the GMs, per the grooms request, and required us to go on a date with our escort. Myself and 2 other BMs, also roommates, politely declined as we were in relationships. We were all told to step down and were uninvited to the wedding. It was very awkward until she moved out a month later.

I'm thinking of a bunch of people, all dressed the same and coupled by height, dancing to "Unchained Melody" (the quintessential slow dance at weddings I've been attending for 30 plus years -- but feel free to fill in the blank with whatever current, pushy, romance based song you can think of) and feeling, "ick, gross, break it up, it hurts!"

Is the guy you're dancing with also in a relationship? Maybe y'all can agree to start the dance together, then after a little while go grab your SOs? Maybe mention it to the bride so she does t get mad...but that way she'd have her corny pictures and you'd only have the awkwardness for a little while. Yeesh, a whole song is a long time to watch people who don't know each other do the stand-and-sway, anyway!

That's so, so awkward and cringe-y to me. Why would anyone think that's an appropriate position to put your nearest and dearest in? The bridal party aren't your dress-up dolls/props.

@KitandKaboodle - What the actual! That's insane!!

WHY?!?

Becca, where are you located that this is normal? I haven't seen a wedding party slow dance since the 80s. I think it's a little dated and tacky.

@Becca, you say others are being hypersensitive but you jump to calling people snowflakes? The OP and many stated this isn't the norm. Maybe the area your from still has this happen but most of us haven't been to weddings where this is a thing. Also how is a slow dance a dance to honor the bridal party if the bridal party doesn't want to do it?

I was in my brothers wedding and they did this, so I had to awkwardly slow dance with one of his friends. I did not see the point at all, and will not be doing it at our wedding.

I have seen that happen before, usually when the bride and groom don't want to slow dance by themselves the whole time during the first dance. I think its awkward as hell for the reasons you said.... its weird to slow dance with a person you barely know, and even weirder if either or both of you are in a relationship! Just tell your friend straight up that's awkward and you don't want to slow dance with someone you don't know.

@Becca must be a Trump supporter, calling people snowflakes *eyeroll*

Wow this would be a deal breaker for me. I'm not a people person in general and having to slow dance with nearly a stranger while FH watches? NAH.

That's very weird

That's awkward...

Still seems to happen at most of the weddings I've attended. Our BM danced for a bit with the MOH during our first dance. They had just met that day and he was married. I very much doubt his wife cared. They should never be forced to do this though.