Bridal Party Skipping Toasts?

U can ask someone else to give a toast.. Maybe your parents, a cousin, etc.

We don't want a bunch of speeches at our wedding. FH's dad will speak briefly and propose a toast and we will give a short speech and that is it. We were at a wedding last month and the speeches seemed to go on and on. A lot of people seemed bored after a while and just started chatting amongst themselves.

@ Christine - so neither your MOH or BM are speaking?

I thought about asking MOH to do a short one, because she'd be more comfortable than the best man but I don't want it to look like the best man is slacking lol.

His best man is definitely giving a speech. Apparently he's been working on it since we got engaged. My sister is MOH and she's got some anxiety speaking in front of people so I'm not even going to ask her.

That's right Kimberly...neither will be speaking. They both seemed relieved when we told them that all we expected from them is to be there next to us when we say our vows. We don't want them to be uncomfortable. If they insist on speaking, they can, but I highly doubt that will happen...lol FH's brother will be our MC and he likes to talk and is quite a character. I'm sure nobody will miss the speeches.

I'm leaving it up to both the MOH and best man. I know my MOH will because I was her MOH and gave one at her wedding. Best man is a nut and will more than likely give one. If they didn't want to, I wouldn't be upset. I hate speaking in public and would hate to make someone feel uncomfortable doing so.

We aren't planning on toasts. There will (probably) be one that FH and I do and possibly one from my dad. We aren't having any honor attendants so yeah.

This makes me feel better! Thank you guys!

The MOH and BM in my wedding are doing toasts but because they and FH grew up together, there's a chance it could be a joint one.

The BM is already worried about writing his. LOL. My MOH probably isn't planning on giving one. I didn't give one at hers. I'm totally fine with just one.

I think we are only going to have the best man do a speech and maybe my dad if he wants to. FFIL will be saying Grace before dinner and thats all we want in terms of that...the plan is to walk into the reception, get right into the first dances and cake cutting, getting all of it out of the way as soon as possible

We didn't do any speeches at our wedding. If anyone wanted to make a speech it was done the night before at the rehearsal dinner.

I still have to talk to FH but I think maybe he will just take a moment to thank everyone for coming but no we are not planning to have speeches.

I think most guests would actually be relieved to not have to endure speeches. I have only heard a couple out of all the weddings I have been to that I wouldn't have preferred to skip.

I don't think you should worry about what people might think if do not have one. If you don't want to do toasts, don't do them.

We are having both the BM and MOH give speeches. The BM feels obligated, and, since I had to give one at my MOH's wedding, she has to give one for mine. Turnabout, fair play, all that.

But there's nothing wrong with skipping them. Honestly, I'm not sure if I would notice if I were at a wedding and the BM/MOH didn't give speeches.

The problem is that most people who give speeches don't know when to stop. We are having them (against my better judgement), but I have told both people that they must keep it under 5 minutes each.

We don't have a best man, just two MOH's since it's pretty much an all female bridal party (excluding the ringbearer). I know my sister has a lot of anxiety, as do I, so I do not expect any speeches from them. However, If anyone decides they want to make a speech, our mothers, fathers, that is fine I will let them. I'm not going to ask anyone, but if they decide they want to, I won't stop them.

I'm skipping this, but it isn't necessarily because the MOH and BM don't want to. I am really scared of what would be said! I know FH's brother, the BM, will probably feel like he has to give a speech, and I love him dearly, but I am so scared of what he would say haha! I'm sure by that point he will have a few drinks in him, and my family is much more conservative and traditional than theirs. However I know that if he has something to say, he will find the mic and say it. So I am preparing myself for a surprise speech, but I am also going to have FH talk to him about this! But, if anyone really want to give a speech I wouldn't tell them no. I am just not going to ask anyone.