Bridal party + significant other lodging

I wouldn’t worry about it and would let them book their own accommodations. If you’re feeling generous, a hotel would probably be the most convenient for your bridal party and their significant others. You can’t do houses and not welcome their partners.

I think it would be super rude to not provide lodging for SOs if you’re providing lodging for the wedding party - especially if they’re traveling. I would not want to stay in a separate place as my FH for multiple nights if one of us were in a wedding and the other wasn’t. I think your best bet is to let everyone get their own lodging. Maybe suggest that everyone gets a room at the same hotel and see if you can all be placed on the same floor? That way, you’re still near your people but everyone has their own space.

I would suggest hotels. Dont put more stress on yourself

Yes just book for you two. People will like to have the option! I did a room block so I asked who wanted one and I put there names down but they are responsible for it and some people like my maid of honor said she will totally come hang out after the wedding at the casino and come back up the next day for brunch but she wanted to go home the night of and she said that if she changes her mind she’ll get one on her on. It’s not on you do get them a place. They know coming into it they need to find a hotel or something like that ❤️

I agree with PPs. Let them find their own lodging and take care of your own

I'd just let them figure out their own lodging

M fiancé and I just booked ourself a Airbnb for two nights. The night of the wedding I want it to be private just the two of us. I can imagine walking to get a drink at midnight and bumping into someone.

You are not required to pay for anyone’s lodging but it’s super sweet of you to think of them what I did was I got an Airbnb with enough space for all my bridesmaids and told them they have the option to stay there with me after the rehearsal dinner that way we can have breakfast and get ready the next day. If they didn’t want to stay there because they wanted to stay with their significant other instead that was completely up to them they just had to be at that Airbnb the next morning for hair and make up. Everyone but 1 person stayed with me. But everyone else took care of their own lodging on the wedding night

I’ve been agonizing over the same thing! I also want space for everyone to hang out and get ready together! I guess I get the consensus, but I feel ya!

Unless your venue comes with accommodations, let everyone find their own lodging. Less stress. If you rent the air bnb it’ll be your responsibility to cover Er details, clean up, food , etc. stuff you don’t need to worry about.

If it's just for two nights I think airbnb would be fine without the SOs. The night before the wedding I want to stay with all my bridesmaids (mostly so I know everyone will be up and ready in time for hair and makeup lol). You can suggest a hotel for them to stay in leading up to the wedding, and that's where their SOs can stay for the night before. The night after you and your husband will probably sleep somewhere else, so it doesn't really matter who's "hanging around" at that point!

I would make it optional, and ask people what they want to do. 100% ALL of your bridesmaids and groomsmen want to stay with their significant others over anyone else, so I'd plan on that being the answer. Personally, I just prefer to get my own hotel room with my husband rather than group housing.

My bridal party opted to rent a big cabin for them and their SO's for both nights. I will not be staying with them as we have our own cabin close by. During the morning of the wedding they will come to my cabin to get ready, so their SO's will be hanging out at the cabin or hitting a brewery. But This is what they decided they wanted to do. I left the decision up to them.

Thank you so much everyone I have so much more clarity now!! Much appreciated

I would just suggest hotels and fend for yourselves. We had these thoughts too, but I think the big shared house is one of those things that sounds better in theory. Like it would be fun for us to have all our friends around but we realize all our friends are not friends with eachother ! Then always a concern that the single people might get shafted regarding sleeping arrangements in a shared house. It turned out one of my bridesmaids and the SO of another REALLY butted heads, so I’m glad I didn’t have them in a situation where they had to share accommodations! — my bridesmaid would’ve had a miserable weekend. We just suggested hotels, said where we’d be, and left it at that. Everything went smoothly !