Bridal Party Role For Nephew

If he's on the shy side he may not want to be a part of the wedding, where he'll get a lot more attention than being a guest. I'd ask him first if he wants to participate and see what he thinks he would be comfortable doing and work from there.

Not all family needs to be incorporated into the bridal party, it's nice for them to just show up and enjoy the day as a guest.

Could he be another usher or groomsman? Could he escort an important family member in during the processional?

I totally agree with @Carlyle that not everyone needs a role, being a family member of the bride or groom is a special thing already

Thank you both

If you want to make him feel more special but don't want him to participate actively (since he's shy) then maybe you could get him a boutonniere like whatever the ushers and GM will wear. He could also hand out programs to those coming into the reception, or (if he doesn't feel too shy to do this), announce you guys when you enter the reception.

I like Lynnie's idea of escorting an important family member as well!

Ask him kindly what he wants, telling him he's welcome to be a part of the day, but if he'd rather just enjoy it as a guest then you'll love just having him there. Whatever he's comfortable with. That's kind of an awkward age. I was dragooned into being a jr bridesmaid in a family friend's wedding around 13 and was soooo shy it was awful.

Could he escort a Grandma? Hand out programs? He probably would like a low key role and it would help build his confidence and help him not to be shy. And help him get over his shyness

Ask him. I just asked my husband what role he would have wanted to play, in a wedding, when he was 14. His reply - I would have tried to stay home.

You gals are so wonderful. Thank you so much. You have brought me some great ideas and suggestions that I would not have thought of. I think when planning I get a bit of a wedding mush brain... stepping back and asking for help has been a very settling experience.

Definitely escorting someone important (grandmother, etc?), or handing out programs.

I'm struggling with a similar problem. I have 2 nephews-ages 7 and 10. Are they too old to be ring bearers? I could try and have one escort someone instead but is 7 still too old and do they need tuxes??