Bridal Party Regrets

My MOH. True colors showed 2 months before we got married and I found out that she was talking about me at work (I work in community based mental health, I was advocating with the union to have us work from home & calling the board of health-during this COVID19, and she told someone to beware of me because what I was doing was wrong, even though I was advocating for our safety ). That did it for me.

I decided not to have a bridal party because I knew that none of my ‘friends’ would be up to the task. I have two best friends, one who is definitely coming to my wedding, and the other who lives in Europe and won’t be able to make it.
I’m glad I decided to not have a bridal party because I ended up having disagreements with two girlfriends whom I thought I was close with (and honestly did think about including them in my bridal party if I had one).

Yes, about 10 months before the wedding one of my bridesmaids (now former bridesmaid) was a major drama queen. I realized the relationship was very unhealthy. Especially after she started dissing my FH and his family because of their military service. One day I was home sick from work and noticed that she deleted and blocked me on social media. I texted her and it came back undelivered. All in all I'm so much less stressed now without that friendship.

View Quoted Comment Oh my gosh! She did you a service by cutting herself off, you’re better off without her.

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Oh I truly am. After everything that happened my FH told me he never really liked her but didn't want to say anything bad because she was my friend. I have an uneven bridal party now but honestly it doesn't bother me.

I was so lenient with my bridal party and I have regrets about that sometimes. I mean I like that I wanted to be a good friend to them but sometimes I felt like were they being good friends to me back?
For instance my bff was only gonna go to my bachelorette day for a couple of hours because she was stressed about studying for school. I told her you know what just take your time to study, it’s ok. But in reality I do kind of wish she could have just been like no no it’s ok I’ll come. Instead she just really quickly was like OK THANKS!
Or one of my bridesmaids even lied to me about getting her dress - why? You don’t have it yet it’s fine to admit it. She literally didn’t get her gown til three days before my wedding and it has to be altered too. But my issue is why even lie before about having gotten it? At the end of the day stuff like that didn’t ruin our friendships but I for sure did feel disappointment

I kinda low key regret having too many people be in our bridal party, but I just kinda am dealing with it atm.

I also decided against having 2 of my friends in my bridal party and I’m glad I did because we’re just not as close as we once were and I felt like It would be a strain on the relationship we do have, and maybe even a little awkward. One of them is VERY opinionated (even not having her in the wedding party she still comments on everything) so I’m glad I stuck to my guns even when others kept saying to add her because I’ve known her since high school.

I had three girls on each side originally but then we were having a really hard time with them (other than our MOH’s) being supportive. We went on this disaster Disneyland trip and it’s ruined my friendship with one of my girls since. I was hoping things would get better but they haven’t and so we ended up adding two more girls who are super supportive and just wonderful friends. I’m still hopeful that on the day of the wedding things will go okay but my bridesmaids know how I feel about her and are aware that our time together should probably be limited.