Bridal Party Regret

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Honestly if you feel it needs to be addressed talk to each person individually. Have FH handle his groomsman and you handle your bridesmaids and friends who aren’t part of the party and haven’t talked. I would say try to be a friend first and try to get an understanding of where they are coming from and help them understand where you are coming from. I hope everything works out for you

I’m really sorry you’re going through this and think the pp gave the best advice

talk to everyone: try to be understanding and explain

i think ink the people you have asked will be very offended to be “unasked”

Having second thoughts on one of them. And almost ready to kick another to curb. So yeah. And I have 625 days to freakin go!

Hi Sara, welcome to the WeddingWire community!

I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this. I would reach out to the ones who are hurt by the decision and explain to them where you are coming from. It can be easy for people to be let down by not being included, but I feel like if you are both communicating how you feel about it all, things may get better! Hoping everything gets better and sending my best wishes to you through out the rest of your planning!

Destination weddings are expensive. What expectations do you have re: what the wedding party should be covering? Where do you think you can compromise?

You don't need to feel apologetic over those you didn't ask. You can understand their sadness, but you weren't obligated to ask them.

View Quoted Comment Ugh! I’m sorry you are going through that. It’s seriously the worst. I have a friend that had to boot a person from their wedding party, it was for something that she felt already ruined their friendship, otherwise I don’t think she would have done it. I hope something changes so you don’t have to do it, I know it would be a difficult conversation!

You are all so right! I know I can’t un-ask everyone now—so I think we are just going to try to have a more “toned down” bridal party...let everyone pick their own outfits and do things to help others feel included like inviting some of my other friends get ready with us.

Thanks for the support everyone!

View Quoted Comment Thanks!

I think having an extended bachelorette party where they all are included, and having them for a portion of the time- not ALL of it- when you are getting ready would be nice. The photos of you and Bridal Party and mother of bride( and sometimes groom) are wonderful, and you might not want the non-Bridal party ladies there for all of those photos would be a nice gesture.

For my bachelorette party I want to do 2. One that is for ALL the females in family and Bridal party- as FH “darling” 21yo daughter is NOT in Bridal party( one of his nieces that I am extremely close with is tho. And My son( and FH son) are NOT in his wedding party- so it can look like we Purposely chose Not to include our kids) and I want to have FH sister, other 2 nieces and her join in.
Going to a weekend getaway that we can do fairly close by- Ocean City MD, or VA Beach- that has fun stuff for all the girls/ages....

Yet I want a “BRIDAL PARTY ONLY” Bachelorette- think spa day for the 5 of us.
I’d love to do a Destination to New Orleans with JUST Bridal party but I don’t think my girls can afford to... and I am not sure how much I can foot of bill towards doing that...
especially if I cover cost of the hotel/House for the group....

Hi,

im having the same exact problem. All my bridesmaids are complaining about costs. The dresses I picked out for them topped off at $190. I also wanted to have a destination bachelorette and none of them besides 1 are for it. They have no motivation. am I over thinking this? :/