Bridal Party Purpose

View Quoted Comment That is pretty cool

View Quoted Comment Also a random tidbit, the bouquet tradition also has a weird background. Back in the day without running water, people smelled really bad. The bride was to hold flowers as a way for her to smell nice for her husband to be on her special day. So, basically if you have running water, you dont need a bouquet either. I read Mindy Weiss' book cover to cover and LOVED all of these historical traditions.

View Quoted Comment I might have to check this book out, these traditions are pretty cool to learn about... thank you!

I honestly don’t know as well! My bridemaids are my sisters and sister in law. All of us live in different cities and its gonna be too much to have all of them come for bridal shower or bachelorette, so I told them I don’t wanna do any of those!

View Quoted Comment I love how you asked this! I see gals on here having major issues with their BMs or people in their party in general and a lot of people fire back at them that they shouldn’t be upset because the party “isn’t expected to do anything”. I think that is ridiculous. Your party is expected to do whatever YOU expect them to do.

View Quoted Comment THANK YOU!!! I was like maybe I’ve had this wrong the whole time, so let me ask what exactly is the point of a bridal party since people get such backlash up here for wanting their party to do the simplest of things!

View Quoted Comment The whole point is when you ask someone to be in your wedding they don’t have to say yes. You ASK because you are asking a lot from your bridal party at times. It can be very costly and a huge commitment! I had a gal I asked to be in my wedding that was blowing me off about paying for her dress. I put a forum out on WW and I had a lot of peeps basically saying she doesn’t have to pay for the dress. To where I was like umm... yes she does? Because that is the expectation I set for my bridal party; to pay for their own attire. Long story short she is no longer apart of the bridal party 😬🤣 It’s your wedding! Don’t take beef from other peeps girly!

Typically they are the people who you want to help you with various aspects of your big day and leading up to it... host your bridal shower, your bachelorette party, moral support... But, pick people you can really depend on and who you know won't leave you hanging if you need them. They typically are taking on a lot monetarily since they will pay for the shower, dress/shoes/hair, and the bachelorette party.

I think it really just varies from person to person.
I have a bridesmaid who is going to be they buy a dress and show up variety.
I have 2 other bridesmaids and a MOH who are going to plan and throw bachlorette and bridal showers.
I don't expect them to help me plan my wedding, but I have bounced ideas off of them.

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You're not asking them to be your helpers or giving them a job; they are supposed to be your closest friends and family members, the people whom you can't imagine getting married without having by your side, and by asking them to stand up next to you while you say your vows you are honoring them and their relationship with you. That's why their only job is to stand next to you (if they are physically able to) and tradition has become that the bride gets to pick out their dress as well, though it should be chosen based on their comfort and budget.

They're welcome to choose to do all sorts of other things, from helping plan the wedding to planning and/or paying for bachelorette parties and showers for the bride, but that should be their choice and dependent on their individual time, inclination, and budget. Not every woman is into those things, and not everybody can afford them or has the time to do them.

Actually yes the bridal party is suppose to throw you a bridal shower and you buy the hostess say your matron of honor a gift for doing so....they are to help you get on your dress help day of with things you need help with. Mine went to my cake tasting with me bc my fiance doesnt want to do any of the planning wants me to do it all so she came with me my MH .. before you walk down the isle they make sure your train is perfect and your good to go. They help you stay on track bit you have to let them know what you need help with so they know what you expect of them. If they need help knowing what to be helping with tell them to google bridesmaids duties to the bride that helped me understand alot as this is my first wedding. You buy gifts for all of those in your wedding party to and a separate gift again for your moh if she does throw you a shower. And your parents if you have them gifts as well.

View Quoted Comment Very true they can say yes or no ...but yes they are there to help you not saying pay for a bunch of things but to help you with what you need and be there for you. I was very lenient on my girls bc i love them and know they dont have a lot of money with kids and my sister being 22 shes out alot so found great cheap dresses for $129 at azazzie.com and they are beautiful and same color and they got to choose what style they liked and felt comfortable in. I said as long as its the same color and floor length i didnt care. But that i do want there hair done idc if its up or down but i want it to look nice and idc what kind of shoes heals or flats as long as there comfortable thats all i care about. But its your day you choose they could have said no i dont have tbe money to be in it etc ...since they pay for there own dresses hair shoes etc...unless yuou say your paying otherwise ....so your day they should be helping when they can and with what they can.. their there to help make your day go by smoother and easier on you literally thats what their there for !! Google it i did lmao

View Quoted Comment This is really cool. I never knew that. Evil spirits will definitely be confused at my wedding because I have 10 women standing with me, all of whom I love dearly and would never “expect” anything but their love and support. These are my rocks, my confidants, my ride or dies and my sisters in life. I look forward to looking to my left and seeing all of their beautiful faces. Aw man now I’m getting emotional. Lol

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I think this is my favorite.

I think most of it is being that core group that helps you to celebrate. I am not inviting every woman attending my wedding to the bachelorette. My MOH is planning it and most likely the only people attending are in my wedding party or related to me (yes, I'm weird-mom and grandma are invited as we are having a board gaming night or something similar). As a bridesmaid, I held the brides dress when she was getting pictures taken and helped bussle it once they were done. I also made sure she had something to drink and eat. I have a day of coordinator now that will do most of that for me but traditionally, the attendants literally attended to the bride and groom's (nearly) every need.

My bridesmaids helped my mom with setting up the bridal shower as well as prizes. They also helped me with writing down gifts, handing them to me, throwing paper away, etc. My maid of honor was the main planner for the bachelorette party but her and my bridesmaids did such an amazing job. They stayed the night with me the night before the wedding and got ready with me too. They helped me with any and all questions throughout the entire process. I was super lucky and I expect to do the same thing for the wedding I'm standing up in next year