Bridal Party on pause

Honestly, I wouldn’t ask for a while since it looks like your wedding is July 2021. A lot can change between now and then. I would probably ask in early Fall 2020.

Do not let anyone make you choose your bridal party. It is your wedding not your MILs.

While it will go super fast, you’ve got some time. I would really take some time and think about who YOU and only YOU want standing beside you on such an important day. The choice should be yours. You’ve got this! Happy planning. 😇

Chose your bridal party based on what feels right in your gut, not what you think is right in everyone else’s minds. As others have said too, if your not getting married for a while then wait, a lot can change and you will have more time to think about who you really want standing by your side!

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This is the best advice.

I think picking bridesmaids based on what you are "supposed" to do or what you are "expected" to do, rather than what feels right is a recipe for disaster. You'd be better off with a smaller group of bridesmaids you were 100% solid on than including people just to have even numbers or make other family members happy.

I'm only having one bridesmaid - my best friend will be my MOH - because she's been the most solid person in my life other than my mom and FH. I feel like she is a "life choice" not just "a friend for now". There are two other women I would have asked, but one is getting married the same day and the other is having a baby and due the week before. It didn't make sense for me to include people who are less significant to me just because they are more available, and I wanted to pick women who I am confident I will be close to years from now, so I ended up with just one!

Wait until your about a year out. A lot of things can happen. Choose whoever you want to stand up there with you. These are supposed to be the closest women in your life.

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Thanks everyone! I know i still have sometime its just moving so quickly. I would like to ask a year out so it allows people to save money for things. I would like to put the one cousin in but im so scared she will just drop out because she is going through a rough time now and anytime things are okay she just flips out and stops talking to me for months. Its just hit or miss with her. I have alot of thinking to do before I decide. I just feel alone in the process of wedding planning as its just me planning it. Alot of people told me i need to ask my MOH so she can help me out. and i want to so bad its just the rest of the bridal party im unsure about. Is it okay to ask my MOH and best mans than later on ask the bridesmaids and groomsmen? It just sucks because I want to include my friends in on wedding planning and enjoy this exciting time like I did with them but I havent asked them yet so i feel that its rude to ask for help and advice on wedding planning. i am the last one to get married out of the family/friends group and I have been apart of 4 of the weddings. Is it rude to have them help me before asking? Why should I stop from asking my friends if im 100% on them and wait for my cousins? HELP! lol thanks

I agree with previous posters, you have time to ask but since you already know who you want your MOH to be, I don’t see why you can’t just go ahead and ask her so she can help you plan. Maybe this will help you feel a little better and have a little load off! Then as time progresses, think more about the rest of your bridal party. I hope this helps

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Yes it does. Thank you! I wasn't sure if thats something okay? Just need to think of a cute gift idea on what I want to give her as a proposal.

View Quoted Comment My wedding is in July and I’ve recently only asked 3 people so far. My two sisters and my best friend. I made them something with an old picture of me with them as their proposal. I told my sisters that I haven’t asked my cousins yet (even though I will) so they know not to say anything. So I think as long as your best friend knows not post anything about being the MOH on social media or telling anyone in your family yet, I don’t see why it would be a problem to ask her while you wait awhile on asking everyone else.

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Thanks for the tip!

View Quoted Comment You’re welcome 😊 I hope everything works out!

Id choose whoever wouldnt cause drama and who cares what anyone else has to say