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Tiffany
Beginner November 2017

Bridal Party Meet and Great

Tiffany, on June 28, 2017 at 10:48 PM Posted in Planning 0 39

Most of my friends have never met my groomsmen, i saw on Pinterest that you could do a field day. Give them a chance to get to know each other. I want to have my wedding a few hours away so people can stay at a small resort , maybe its to much to ask that they come up the Friday afternoon prior? I just want them to have fun and interact with each other at the wedding and reception so its not completely awkward . I'm not saying track and field or games. but maybe they can come together and just hang out.

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Latest activity by C.C., on June 29, 2017 at 1:02 PM
  • Gracie Lou Freebush
    VIP October 2017
    Gracie Lou Freebush ·
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    That sounds forced and more awkward than just letting them get to know each other normally...

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  • muriel
    Champion June 2018
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    Are you willing to pay for their rooms and meals for the unnecessary extra day? They don't need to know each other. They are there for you and your FI. They may never see each other again.

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  • Tiffany
    Beginner November 2017
    Tiffany ·
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    @muriel the house sleeps 18 to 20 ppl on the property

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  • Brittany
    Expert July 2017
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    I feel it's a little extra.

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  • JMA
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    JMA ·
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    That sounds like my personal hell lol. No but really don't sweat it, they will meet at the rehearsal dinner and it won't be awkward. Smiley smile

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  • Pamela
    Savvy October 2017
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    I just went to a wedding last week where they did something similar and the bride and groom grilled up some steaks and stuff for us to eat. We had a blast and if you think your friends would enjoy it, then totally go for it.

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  • fallinthegarden
    Master October 2017
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    I'm in a wedding this weekend. I've met 1/2 other bridesmaids and 2/4 groomsmen. If I have to walk with or sit by someone I don't know? Oh well. Adults can coexist with people without being forced to do icebreaker games.

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  • Ana
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    I think that they can meet & hang out during the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner.

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  • Ms.Fox
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    It's too much to ask. I feel bad even having my bp drive up the day before for the rehearsal... don't make them take off work just to get acquainted. The rehearsal dinner will do just fine.

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  • pammat
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    It's totally true that bridal parties can meet at the rehearsal dinner -- or at the ceremony! -- and it all be cool. Been there, done that, no issues.

    But the favorite wedding I was in had the 8 person WP meet up a few times wedding week to hang out at bride/groom's condo or wander around Boston or go out for drinks. (We were all from out of town, but we all came in a few days to a week early.)

    It definitely made the wedding day a lot more relaxed, since we no longer had to worry about getting to know each other.

    What I'm saying is: couldn't hurt, might help.

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  • Mrs. Barton
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    I read the posts and knew what the comments were going to entail. @OlivaP first comment made me about snort. Lol.

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  • Olivia_7
    Dedicated October 2018
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    No no no. I was in a wedding last summer where the bride made us get together a few weeks before the wedding to "bond" with each other. So we went camping. -_- It was forced, I didn't know most of them, and I didn't feel the need to get to know any of them. Unnecessary. IMO

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  • Tiffany
    Beginner November 2017
    Tiffany ·
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    @OliviaP i was initially just going of what i saw on pinterest. I reread it and adjusted it to what i was mostly interested in and that was getting them together and hang out.

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  • OregonBrooke
    Dedicated September 2017
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    I totally see where you're coming from! But they'll be fine without the extra day.

    I would start to feel a bit overwhelmed if someone asked me to do that on top of everything else.

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  • FutureMrs
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    I would not do that. They'll meet at the rehearsal dinner and that should be enough! Anything else I feel would be too forced

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  • K
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    KRAIN ·
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    How is it too early to have a bridal party?

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  • LillyBean17
    Master October 2017
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    JFC another obnoxious extra wedding event that is sure to blow up into a never ending trend....

    No. If people want to meet each other, they will find a Starbucks and meet up. Stop forcing social interactions on people for no reason.

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  • AndyJ
    Devoted September 2017
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    I think meeting at rehearsal dinner is enough. Personally I'd feel a little inconvenienced if I was asked to do more than that (especially on top of a bridal shower and bachelorette party).

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  • Rachel DellaPorte
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    I know pinterest is compelling, especially when you're planning a wedding, but a lot of it is nothing more than nicely staged, totally fake, run of the mill BS.

    Does it matter if none of your friends have met your GM? No, not in the least. Long term friendships between her friends and his attendants are not the concern of the bride or the groom. Or...consider this...what if the worst happens and your friend/friends tell(s) you that GM #1 and #4 are creeps -- something they discovered on field day -- and they'd like you to keep them away from them. Besides, why would you plan something like this for the day before your wedding? Are you doing a rehearsal or rehearsal dinner? Where's the room for field day? And what are you going to do with your "friends" if there is a RD?.

    Listen, a bride gets one day (maybe three if she is hosted with a shower and a bachelorette party), but that's as big as it gets. Your friends and attendants will be there, but they don't want to suffer the embarrassment caused by declining an invitation they don't want to accept. Please, leave them alone the night before your wedding.

    And pinterest is not the wedding gospel -- anyone can post anything, but from what I've noticed, everything that's posted is meant to impress upon a bride that she has to do more, more, more...when she's already done enough. Those people, your friends and his GM, are there for you and him -- respectively. They aren't there to build a social group based on your wedding.

    Then, I'm thinking at it from the perspective of your friends. Chances are these adults have zero interest in meeting FH's GM. Why should they? Yes, it's beyond too much to ask that anyone comes up to lodge the night before your wedding for a meet and greet field day.

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  • Modern Bride
    Savvy July 2017
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    I hosted a Mix and Mingle for my wedding party and it was indeed a success! I provided a catered meal and drinks. We also played silly games like Taboo. WP loved it and we plan on having more game nights. I also used it as an opportunity to match folks up. OP...do whatever you feel comfortable with. Don't let some of these posts discourage you. Best of luck!

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