Bridal party jewelry

I gave them jewelry but I didn’t specify they needed to wear it. So in the end they just chose to wear whatever and it didnt clash or anything cause it’s not noticeable to be frank. So if you told them to keep it simple then it shouldn’t be too noticeable as long as they’re not these bold statement pieces

All of my girls wore different dresses, that they chose, and I also let them pick their jewelry. I just told them Navy floor length dress from Azazie and silver jewelry. It looked great! No one wore anything big or gaudy. Everyone picked simple, elegant jewelry. Honestly, when looking at photos, I don't even notice their jewelry.

The jewelry won't be noticeable in the pictures, really. I'm letting them pick everything except their dresses.

My friend had her bridesmaids pick out their accessories, but only gave a couple stipulations - silver and dangles. You could do that if you want more a uniform look that is still flexible to what each person prefers.

View Quoted Comment Oh okay that's what I was thinking! That it wouldn't be that noticeable

View Quoted Comment Oh okay I didn't even think about that idea. But yes I agree. I don't think anyone would wear bold statement pieces but I did ask that they send me a picture before the wedding.

View Quoted Comment Oh okay that sounds good! I'm glad that worked out. I was thinking that I wouldn't notice their jewelry either. My bridesmaids are wearing navy as well. I had picked a few options that went together and let them just pick whichever they liked from those options

View Quoted Comment Oh okay I didn't even think about specifying what type of gold jewelry. If I already said what color. How could I go back and word what type? I did ask that they send me a picture before the wedding though

I let my bridal party pick their jewelry for the same reasons you're wanting to, and they also chose the hairstyle they wanted. I honestly don't think any of them wore much besides earrings, which their hair covered mostly, so pictures looked fine. I wanted them to feel comfortable and not feel like they were being forced to wear something or buy something they would never wear again.

You can’t see their jewelry at all in pictures. No one is going to notice or think about it.

People's personal jewelry is always their own choice. Even if a bride gives them jewelry as a gift, they may wear that or their own. Same with hair styles. Brides can state a preference. Brides may offer to pay for hair styling, or not. But personal jewelry, hair cut, color and style, and makeup, done by themselves or a stylist, is always the BM choice, provided they stick with the formality of the occasion. Most people want to look nice, and I cannot remember ( in well over a hundred weddings ) ever noticing that someone's personal jewelry has not suited their clothing and the occasion. I have been in a few weddings where the bride or her mother tried to dictate jewelry, and it ended up in a mess. Twice over mothers of the bride who did not want any BM, MOH, or wife of a groomsman sitting at their table, to wear any jewelry with a stone, including their own engagement rings, so no one would " compete with" the bride. The wedding party except for bride's sister quit both times. Til bride shut mom up. And I have been in others where fights and quitting have happened. But every time, it was a bride trying to dictate to BM that they cut or dye their hair, or have it done a certain way, to suit the bride. And no one was accepting it. I have been in a few where the bride gave everyone matching jewelry, and only 1 or two would wear it, people wanted their own. Once no one would wear what a bride and her wedding planner had a jeweler make, a few hundred each. People are happy with their own choice for hair or any personal thing. Don't worry about it. Choose the dresses to whatever degree you want to , matching or flexible, and leave it to your ladies. If someone has a problem and comes to you, maybe needs some help, or not good at choosing makeup or jewelry, then be helpful. You know what these ladies look like daily, and maybe on special occasions. Did you choose someone who is a hot mess? If not, trust them. Often, more matchy matchy is not attractive. People are not examining your wedding party, detail by detail. Just the overall impression. Someone dressed with a wrong level of formality is the one thing everyone notices. Unless the bride is making a statement, sneakers don't go with formal dresses, and club makeup and hairstyles look silly at an afternoon boho affair. So ask your ladies their choices with that in mind, and only make an issue if they are doing something unsuitable that way. You sound loose and flexible for the most part, so continue that way.

I’m giving them a bracelet though I’m not really planning to tell them they have to wear it. But both times that I’ve been a bridesmaid, I’ve been given jewelry by the bride and though they didn’t say anything I still wore it for their wedding.

I’m letting by them choose whatever jewelry or shoes they want. Or if they don’t want to wear jewelry I’m fine with that as well. I don’t want them to have to spend extra money to get specific jewelry so if they want to use the jewelry and shoes they already own that’s good for me.
I agree with PPs, you won’t see jewelry in pictures.

View Quoted Comment Oh wow I hate that the bridal party quit! But yes I don't want it to be all matchy matchy when it comes down to small details like that. My mom is so traditional and things she suggest she'll say that most brides do that. My sisters are in the wedding so its as if she is more involved in things with the bridal party. But thank you for the advice. That helps! I'll stick with what I already have told them and it shouldn't be an issue.

View Quoted Comment Same here. Most of my Bridesmaids are traveling a few hours away and I don't want them to have to spend too much money. I want to be reasonable if I can

View Quoted Comment Yeah you really can't see it. And I love the shawls with your bridesmaids and yourself!

View Quoted Comment Actually, there is one thing a lot of brides should think about, and don't. Depending on where you live , for some reason people are often unprepared for a rainy day. Or a chilly evening. And ladies with bare backs or strapless gowns forget to choose a raincoat or cape or umbrella . Last minute, it is nice to know people own or will borrow something that will get them into the venue, or out of church to the venue, without looking like drowned rats. I have entered a church in bright sunshine and exited in an unpredicted downpour, and been happy someone in the families has gathered Golf umbrellas. Or brought a full length cape with a hood, only to find 2 of us were Okay and a couple had nothing. And no handy limo driver or doorman with an umbrella, even for a bride. I don't know where you are getting married, but here in New England, the only thing you can count on is it does not snow in July and August. Hail and hurricane, no guarantees.

View Quoted Comment Thanks Courtney. It was freezing! Reception was inside so we were fine after pics.

View Quoted Comment You're welcome! And good thing it was inside!

I am letting them wear whatever jewelry they want. Honestly, it’s so unnoticeable. You can’t even tell if it’s gold or silver. Also, one of my BMs doesn’t have ear holes, so I am not asking them to wear anything special.