Tiffany
Just Said Yes October 2020

Bridal Party Information

Tiffany, on August 6, 2019 at 5:48 PM Posted in Planning 0 13
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So, I'm in the beginning stages of planning (as far as smaller details) and I found this amazing sheet that had questions to ask the Bridesmaids about things like measurements and preferences. I realize some brides don't care about all that and want their bridesmaids to wear what they're told but I honestly care about their preferences. Yes, I know it'll put me in a situation but these ladies mean enough to me that I'm willing to put myself thru a little extra stress.

My question is, is it normal for the bride to have the same type of information on the groomsmen? I'd like to know their measurements and preferences and contact information in case I need to step in and take care of something for any of them. My fiance owns a construction business so he's very busy and if I'm able to take some of the workload off him I'm willing to. He's very involved in the planning so honestly our plates are equally as full as the other.

I tried looking for groomsmen information sheets like I found for the bridesmaids but there's nothing out there. Is anyone detailed like me and feels she could benefit from having this information and happens to know or have a sheet that was/is/would be helpful? Comments on these things can get off topic so please don't comment your opinion. I'm solely looking for like minded brides like me that could help me find what I'm looking for.

Thanks!!

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  • Lauren
    Super September 2019
    Lauren ·
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    I found those sheets too in my early days of planning. I never used them because all the measurements for my girls were taken care of at David's Bridal and I just picked the dress, they all tried on their size. You could take into consideration their budget, color and style preference but that is probably all the info you need to know.

    For the guys they will all eventually have to take a trip to the suit rental place. We chose Men's Wearhouse. They will also get measured there and they will try on their size to be fitted. Again the only info you will need to know is budget, color and style preference. But if you are having a black tie formal reception a casual tan suit probably isn't appropriate. And the color of their ties will depend on the dresses your girls are wearing. Most rentals will run you about $100-$200+.

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  • V
    VIP July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I get where you are coming from because I was very nervous about the groomsmen, my bridesman, father, the usher, and ring bearer getting their tuxes. I didn't have a sheet or anything, but I kept checking with my fiance to see if the guys went to get measured. We got our tuxes through Men's Warehouse so they would email my fiance when someone got measured so he would update me. I personally didn't care about their measurements, but that's just me. To me, it was important that they got measured and picked up their tuxes. We did have some difficulties with Men's Warehouse though so I don't know if I would use them again if that's who you plan on going through.

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    I'm not sure why you would need the bridesmaids measurements, but I think preferences is nice. What I did was choose a color, length, and fabric from Azazie and let the girls pick their own dress. They were all different shapes & sizes & ages & styles so I wanted them to be comfortable. It worked super well and was really easy. I let them pick their own shoes & jewelry & hair and makeup too. For the guys, it isn't needed in my opinion. We picked a suit jacket & pants and let them pick their own shoes, belt, and under shirt. Then we bought ties & pocket squares & socks for them.

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  • Caytlyn
    Champion November 2019
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    I don't see why you would need measurements for anyone in your bridal party. Let your FH handle his side and you handle yours.

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  • Tiffany
    Just Said Yes October 2020
    Tiffany ·
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    I feel like I can't ask questions without getting every response I specifically ask not to get. Done with this site.

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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly Online ·
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    I gave my girls a length, color, and fabric and let them choose what they wanted! That way I didn’t have to get a bunch of different opinions. It worked out really well for us and I always appreciate that approach when I’ve been a bridesmaid.
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  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
    Chandra ·
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    Theres really no need for you to have anybody's measurements. They can be sized and order their attire on their own.
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  • Sarah
    VIP September 2019
    Sarah Online ·
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    No, I didn’t have these and as a bridesmaid I would feel incredibly uncomfortable writing out my measurements for someone on a wedding worksheet.
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  • Colleen
    Master September 2019
    Colleen ·
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    I just told my Bridesmaids a color to wear. They picked own dress. Same with grooms women. We only had 1 girl have a issue. He has no guys but if he did I would have just said a suite in that color.
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  • Colleen
    Master September 2019
    Colleen ·
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    I do not think people are meaning to be rude. Just saying that some girls may not be comfortable giving you measurements.
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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    I had conversations with my girls about what they were interested in, and we all made decisions together. I picked color, I got their input on length, and they chose styles but discussed together to figure out which went best together. It worked wonderfully, and they all handled their own ordering (so no sizes were publicly discussed— which is something I personally would not be comfortable disclosing). The boys cared less. H picked out his outfit and told them what he chose and where from. They all went out in their own and got it, no discussions (other than previously establishing comfortable budgets)
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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    ^^ this, and I think you may not find much of what you’re looking for, op, because most people share the discomfort. Such sheets may not exist because the concept isn’t well received. If you want to gather info on preferences, you’re probably better off putting together your own spreadsheet (or a google docs/sheets type thing that can be shared and edited amongst users) on the specific stylistic information you’re hoping to gather. I wouldn’t expect the men to care as much, so it may not be worth the effort/stress of not getting feedback— my husband’s guys were “whatever you say” the whole way, so it would’ve been an extra unnecessary step that worked to no one’s advantage.
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  • HisQueenHerKing
    Savvy August 2021
    HisQueenHerKing ·
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    I am trying to start planning my wedding but i don't know where to start do you have any trips

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