Bridal Party Help

Unfortunately, no one is ever going to be as excited or happy as you are for your wedding day. It is honestly just up to the couple getting married to plan their wedding unless someone else offers to help. It doesn't sound like your bridesmaids really want to help so I would stop including them in the wedding planning process. I would just expect them to buy the dress and be there for the wedding which is really the only requirement of a bridesmaid anyways.

I didn't experience that because I didn't have bridesmaids. But your post makes me wonder, what is the usual dynamic with this group of friends? Does everyone joke around and flit from topic to topic? If that's the norm, I wouldn't expect them to suddenly be different people just because you are getting married. If they ARE suddenly acting differently than normal, than I would have private conversations with each one to see what's up.

The best way to proceed is keep most of the planning discussions between you and your future spouse. Not everyone wants to talk weddings all day (that's what this forum is for!), and that's OK. Keep them informed as needed on the schedule and such, but otherwise, just talk about normal friend stuff with them, like you did before wedding planning.

When it comes to ideas and tastes, everyone has different preferences so just remember that ! Because just cause they dislike what you like isn’t really a reason for you NOT to go with it. Everyone isn’t always gonna like the same things. Don’t do what pleases them and don’t take it too to heart when they don’t like what you like

Initially, some of my bridesmaids were very eager to help me plan my wedding (which was awesome!), but I felt like I was accepting their plans just because they were so excited to help, and not because my fiance and I genuinely liked the ideas. It started to feel like my wedding was turning into something that wasn't what my fiance and I wanted, so we took a step back and decided to plan our wedding completely on our own and not ask for input from wedding party. We now only include our wedding party in our planning or asked them for help/opinions when it is something that directly involves them (hair/makeup options, bridesmaids dresses, etc). Otherwise, we do not ask them for input. I definitely recommend doing the same - if your ideas aren't being accepted by them, I would keep your plans between you and your fiance, since your opinions are the ones that matter most.

I think planning should be between you and your future spouse.

I've had a couple of issues with this and I totally agree that no one is as excited as you are - so don't put any wedding planning pressure on your girls. BUT, your friends should not be laughing at your ideas. They should be your biggest hype people during this time. Yes, the planning is between you and your fiancé but they should still be a support system for you. I don't leave any decisions up to them but I definitely keep them in the loop - and they want to know the planning details!

It's your wedding, so you don't need to depend on them for planning advice but you should be able to come to them with happy decisions you've made for your big day, or vent to them about to frustrations of some details too!

Don't put too much on them, but don't settle for people who don't celebrate you during the biggest time of your life!

I personally have kept the planning with just me and my FH. My bridesmaids are amazing and super excited but of course they have a lot going on and I like to make sure everything is done the way we want. I really only include them in things that relate to them, like choosing the dress they are gonna wear and the party and such. I've had a few offer to do certain things like I have one making all the bouquets for the girls but besides that I just give them need to know info.

All the planning has been between my fiancé & I. Honestly, the only responsibility my bridesmaids have are to get their dresses & make an appearances to the bachelorette party, rehearsal, rehearsal dinner & the wedding. It’s not their responsibility to help plan my wedding.

No, because my bridesmaids had nothing to do with planning my wedding.

My bridesmaids haven’t had a role in planning my wedding (other then my matron and maid of honor) and when I say “planning” I mean talking me off the edge due do the stress of having to reschedule twice. I’m sorry your dealing with this, but I didn’t feel it was my bridesmaid responsibility to help me plan. My advise, don’t worry about what they think if your ideas. If you love them, go for it! It is after all your day!

As much as I love my friends and bridal party, I'm not involving them in the planning process. That's between us as a couple. Don't let others discourage you. If YOU like something, do it. You are the one getting married after all.

No. I only really talk about it with my MOH. And she's voluntary involved herself in the planning process. And she's not planning it, I use her as a sounding board. But she is planning a kitchen remodel and uses me as a sounding board. That's just our relationship. But I make it clear that she can tell me to stop whenever. But as many have said before the bridesmaids aren't responsible for the planning.If they aren't interested, come on wedding wire- we're here for you.

Too many opinions. My WP had nothing to do with any wedding planning beyond picking their dress colors and dresses. Not their job. And other friends planned and were hostesses for small showers. They planned showers, and I had nothing to do with them. My parents and sibs did not either. This was the first big project hubby and I ever did, just the two of us. We shared news after things were decided, only, from the very start.

Your friends shouldn’t be laughing at you. I agree with the others, planning isn’t their job, but they should not be mocking you. Are they normally mean to you or is this something new?

Oh no. Thst is unfortunate. Never had anyone do that to me but I didn't have a wedding party.

Me and 2 of my maids constantly butted heads on a lot, and it wasn't all wedding related and it caused quite a few arguments. Our relationships were not the same and we stopped being friends a few months back so they are no longer in my party. I have a core group tht hve been so supportive and wonderful and made me realize what true friendship is and it was the best choice I could've made. It alleviated a lot of unnecessary stress and helped with the wedding planning! Do what you feel is right in your heart, talk with them and tell them how you feel. If they can't express the level of friendship you need then they shouldn't be your friends or have the honor of being next to you at the altar!

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Not my bridesmaids, but my mother. She has more opinions than I do about everything and fights me tooth and nail on things like what mask I, the bride, will be wearing. Or the fact that I want my dogs to be with me one is well trained and will not really need to be watched while the other is fine being in her kennel or on a tie out. It's an outside venue at my parents' closest friends' house and they actually thought it was a great idea to bring them. So, we basically gave them a plan for it and told them the dogs were coming. Then I let my bridesmaids pick out their dresses.