My wedding is 16 months out and I found a great vendor for hair and make up. Do I ask my bridesmaids if they would like to opt in to pay for their own hair and make up? Is this something I solely need to pay for? I don’t want anyone to feel not included but I also can’t afford to pay for everyone. I was hoping giving them so much notice would help as it’s less than $5 a month they would need to save. Any thoughts?
I would see what the vendor requires. Do they need to have at least 5 people to book them or something like that. If not, I would just let your girls know this vendor will be available for these prices if you want to use them. That way they can decide to use the services or not.
If having their hair & makeup professionally done is optional, then you are not required to pay for it. If you are requiring them to have it done, then you need to pay. I am leaving it up to my bridesmaids. If they would like either, or both, service(s) done, they are required to pay for it. If they don’t want it done, no problem. At this point, they have all said they will be getting both done.
If it helps, I am paying for makeup, but since all my friends have different hair & it works for them differently I told them the price and had them decide if they wanted to get their hair done. Since I am paying for makeup I think it made it easier for them to afford to get their hair done and so they all opted in for it.
You only pay for it if you are requiring your BMs to use that service. If you want to make it optional for them, that's great. Just tell them how much each service will cost--you can even mention the $5/month to let them know how easy it could be to save up. Also, give them a deadline to decide, so that you can let your hair and makeup person know. If you have a larger bridal party, and they all opt to have those services, then your professionals may need to bring extra help, so make sure you factor that in to your timeline.
This is what I'm doing. I only have 3 girls, but I'm giving them the option. I figure I want to feel pampered, and I'd like them to feel that way too, if they can afford it! By giving them the option this far in advance, you've really helped them make the expense affordable.
As pps have said, as long as it's optional then I think it's fine to have your bridesmaids pay for their own services. I called the salons and got pricing info first, then presented it to my girls like "Ok so I know some of you might be interested in getting your hair professionally done for the wedding. This is totally up to you, and if you want to do it it's $XX with a deposit of $XX. Let me know!" And then they just Venmo-ed me their deposits. Easy peasy.