Bridal party groupchat

Honestly, if nothing automatically comes to mind that you need to tell your whole bridal party, then I would just wait until you have something to tell them. Lots of people don't really like participating in group chats unless they know everyone (does everyone in your bridal party know everyone else and already communicate via text?). So for most things, individual communication will still be better.

You could just start with a “Hey girls! Just wanted to make a group chat to make planning easier. If everyone can just answer back with their name to make sure everyone has each other’s numbers! So excited to have you all be part of my day!”

I would start by individually confirming with everyone first that they want to be part of a group chat for the next 20 months.

I'm waiting to make mine till I have the information about attire for them. It's still too early to think about ordering BM dresses and I haven't booked HMU artists yet. They already have the date, so I don't need to say anything else yet.

I did a group chat on social media because text message group chats can get annoying. I only had 4 girls and I knew they check their social accounts often. My first message was similar to what lauren said. I also let them know what my expectations were for all my BMs which was a very small list.

Most bridesmaids are not asked until 6-9 months before the wedding (and many posts of asking earlier backfiring including friendships ending badly) so there is not much you need to discuss this far out. Closer to the wedding (roughly 10 months) you can set up a Discord type server for everyone to communicate on. Share ideas and pictures of dresses, flowers, etc for input. But again, don’t need to do that yet. Say whatever comes natural: “hey this is a place to chat, share ideas and info”. Then go from there.

I wouldn’t do this. As others have said some people, like me, hate group text message. My grandmother loves to send them on holidays and such. I’ve blocked everyone she included if I don’t have their number already saved.
I didn’t have a group chat and if I did it was right before the wedding like maybe the day or 2 before the rehearsal. My friend did a group message on Facebook. That isn’t as bad as the messages are less Intrusive. I would go that route if you just have a group message.

My Maid of Honor started the group chat with an "Introduce Yourself and How Do You Know Vale?" post, since most of the bridal party don't really know each other. I then added a list of Getting To Know You fun questions. I update the chat periodically, I asked their input on things like the cake flavors, gave the timeline for ordering their bridesmaid dresses, and any other fun/important information that needs to be conveyed.

Hi there,

I started a group text. I said something along the lines of " Hi ladies, thank you for standing by us on our special day! I thought creating a group chat would be a great way to keep us all in contact."

I don't think a whole lot needs to be said.. something short and sweet to get the point across.

Hope this helps

Sam

I started one with my ladies to just have a central location where they can go to ask me and the others questions, and it's where the link is for them to buy their dress. It's also the place we go to if we need to vote on something or opinions Like: "Do you ladies want to get your hair and makeup done professionally or DIY?"..."Who's bought their dress, and what do you think? Should we stick with that website or try somewhere else?" (please note that I'm not the person sending these lol...they've been very active and speaking with one another)

I just said: "Hey ladies! I'm so excited to be sharing this milestone with you, and can't wait for us all to celebrate together! This will be the place to go to if you have any questions for me or anyone else. I'll send the link to the website for your dresses as well so that you can just go here and click on it! I'll be reaching out to each person individually on what your budget looks like, but for anything that needs a vote, we can just post it here. Love ya'll bunches!!"

I would probably prefer to not be automatically plopped into a group text chat without someone asking first, especially if I didn't know everyone involved. Everyone has a different relationship with technology and different work schedules, so you might have someone who texts around the clock mixed in with a person who texts infrequently and the sheer volume of messages in a large group chat gets overwhelming quickly. Since I use my personal phone for work, there are times I need to have it available and check messages or be alert for incoming phone calls from colleagues, but if there is an entire side conversation happening that can be distracting.

When my husband was the best man and organizing a bachelor party for his friend he communicated details with everyone over email. It's less instantaneous, but for actually planning things it works a lot better for collecting information in a centralized, well organized format. I would at least start introductions there, and leave it up to the group to decide whether they want to "opt in" to a group chat, and maybe set some ground rules about how the chat is used first.

You can say, "Hi ladies! I made this group chat so I can chat with you girls all at once for any and all wedding festivities. Plus it gives us a chance to get to know each other a little bit. If everyone can just send a message telling us who you are so we can save each other's numbers!"

I didn't do a groupchat with my bridal party. I did one with my 2 MOH (sister & bestfriend) because they would be more involved, but I told everyone else separately. I hate being in groupchats because half of the time the messages don't have anything to do with me.

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I would do what Lauren said! I think that'd be a perfect message!