Bridal party gifts

I think giving wedding party members gifts as a Thank You for participating in the wedding is a kind gesture. It doesn't need to be super expensive or extravagant, but something thoughtful would be kind.

I pay their dresses, alterations, shoes, undergarments, jewelry, and I will take them to have fun the day before the wedding. I don’t think I need extra gift. I don’t know anyone who gave gifts to the bridal party. We just pay everything they need for the wedding 🤷🏻‍♀️

Yes they should receive a gift because they are taking time out of their schedules and spending their money to share and celebrate your day. That is a minimum on your part.


As far as gifts themselves, wedding-related attire and jewelry, etc for photo ops are not gifts. Anything with names/date or titles will get tossed. Shop like it's Christmas or their birthday getting something that fits their individual personalities/hobbies/interests that they will enjoy long after the wedding is over.

View Quoted Comment I agree that you don't need to do anything more than that! That's generous of you to cover all those expenses for them!

View Quoted Comment Oh wow! Honestly that’s the first I’ve heard about paying for all of that. Usually I hear maybe paying for their bridesmaids hair or makeup or both OR paying for the guys tie, but never came across one to pay for the dress, alterations, shoes, undergarments. Interesting!

For WP, I would give/ did give one present at the end significantly more than a token tote or cup, and more in the $50-$75 range, and up, each personal to the individual, not generic candles and totes, but shop like it is their birthday. ( And no proposal gifts, and no props for pictures like getting ready shirts or robes, t-shirts with stuff printed, favors) . Which means except for the amount which may vary by income, I agree with traditional etiquette on this. Not with reality tv and such that have added little junky gifts ( in my opinion) that I and everyone I know throws out.

View Quoted Comment It's pretty rare for the bride to cover all clothing *and/or* beauty expenses. If a couple is rolling in money and has extra to spare then it's a nice gesture. But generally the only time the bride covers expenses if if she requires a certain look for everyone. Normally, the bridesmaids pay for their own attire, shoes, hair, makeup, jewelry. Don't feel bad if you can't afford it.

View Quoted Comment It is very nice of you to pay for these things, but they are all costs that would not exist except for your wedding. But not one is any kind of thank you to them that they will enjoy when the wedding is over. All stuff for you, not them.

It's a definite yes for my husband and I for our big wedding

View Quoted Comment That’s nice they did that. I already had my wedding and we did small simple personalized gifts. Only one I paid for on makeup was my mother for everyone else they paid for their own stuff dress, makeup, hair shoes. Money or not in my opinion I’m would not pay for all that, but if someone needed help affording it to be in our wedding then yes I would have helped. Lol I just wanted to see if people still did gifts for their WP 😂 or if some thought giving gifts were just not necessary

View Quoted Comment Yesss girl it was for us too and they all loved them especially the personalized gifts, we have a covid wedding and provided all their mask too that match their dresses or suits. We didn’t do anything super extra
, but just a small day of gift

I'm not doing gifts for mine (I'm paying for their expenses) but tbh I am not a fan of the really cheapy / tacky gifts some people give their bridal party - if buying a gift, get something that will be used and well appreciated, try avoid things that are specific to your wedding (i.e. things personalised with your wedding details) as they will never see the light of day.

View Quoted Comment Gifts are required according to proper etiquette. Robes, jewelry, dress, makeup, etc are not included in those gifts.

So my BM/GM were spoiled!


We got them all “will you be in our wedding gifts” BM got a cute box, with nail polish, wine bottles, and a few other Knick knacks. I also got them “thank you for being in the wedding gifts” Customized Yetis for the GM and BM got customized Wine glasses, customized bags, robes, and koozies.
We also paid for the entire wedding party attire, and I also paid for my BM to get their hair done!

Bridal party gifts are a necessity. Paying for your own wedding isn’t a thank you to your bridesmaids, it’s your responsibility.

We paid for our bridesmaids’ dresses, hair, makeup, getting ready attire, brunch the day before, and we did plan to pay for the wine tasting the day before but one of my bridesmaids actually beat me to paying for it (she paid for everyone). I didn’t put any specifics on how I wanted them to do their hair and makeup because I didn’t care, I just didn’t want them to have to worry about doing it themselves on the morning of. All in all, it was just under $500 per person.


We paid for our groomsmen’s tie, suspenders, socks, pocket square, golfing at my husband’s country club the day before, brunch before golf. Our best man got married 5 months before us and 3 of our groomsmen were in that wedding so we had them use the same suit and bought the other two grooms men’s suit. This also averaged to around $500 per person. We also paid tor the standard breakfast/drinks for the morning of getting ready.
We still wanted to get our wedding party gifts because they were taking time out of their lives to be there on our special day. Most took at least two days off work, 6 of them flew in from the other side of the country, they paid for hotels and car rentals. We bought them gifts based on what they like. Most of the girls I got jewelry that I made sure they knew they didn’t have to wear for the wedding. Some ended up wearing it still. I think our gifts ended up being around $3k for all of them. We did give our best man and maid of honor gifts that were a little bit more expensive though.

I think it’s also cultural. All friends did the same. They pay everything what the bm and gm needs. The bm and gm is honored to be the chosen one. We don’t gift extra, but don’t want them to spend any money to be honored too. In many cases they pay for the flight, hotel, and food too. It all depends. My family is like that.

View Quoted Comment Yes. That is the point. We honor them to be the trusted ones, and we don’t want them to spend anything to be in our party. We invite, we pay. However, they got an attire that they can reuse, which isn’t cheap. They got flight tickets, and hotel stay over a week to enjoy after the wedding. It’s kind of free vacation too.

View Quoted Comment That's cute. We didn't use our bridal party for our minimony but we're using them for our big wedding. My husband is giving his groomsmen a customized flasks and socks to wear for the wedding with their favorite nfl teams.


My bridesmaids are getting customized tumblers and robes.

I will be paying for my bridesmaids dresses, hair and makeup, and my bridesman’s attire. I will also be giving each of them personalized gifts, and treating them to brunch the day after the wedding.