Bridal party getting too big

I’ve seen this happen before- my suggestion would be to make the brothers into ushers. This way they are still involved without making your official “wedding party” so large.

I wouldn’t add anyone after you’ve already picked a wedding party. Are you close to your brothers? If not then I would put my foot down and say no. People will have hurt feelings in wedding planning but that doesn’t mean you need to alter your plans to appease them. They are (I assume) grown ups and can handle it.

Perhaps you can Include them in the wedding, but not as a GM or BM?

How about readings or ushers?

I kind of have the same problem. My FH ask my brother to be a groomsman but he did not ask either of his brothers because they are never around nor are my Fh and his brothers close. But I have made them flowers to wear( if they even show up). But yes adding more people to your wedding party sounds insane. Either say no it's not happening or allow them to be ushers

If you actually want your brothers in the wedding party, there is no reason they can't be bridesmen. Since they are on your side of the family, it makes more sense for them to be on your side of the wedding party. However, if you aren't close to them, there is no obligation to include them.

View Quoted Comment I’m close with my brothers and want them included but by FH isn’t close with his and we kind of feel like it’s an all or nothing deal with the brothers. The problem is there’s so many of them.

View Quoted Comment I don’t think it has to be an all or nothing thing. My husband had his sisters on his side and I didn’t have mine.

I don't really judge the size of the wedding party on the overall guest count. If 11 people fit up with you guys at the alter, who cares? As long as you can afford gifts, rehearsal dinner, flowers, etc. ask whoever you want. We have 9 bridesmaids & 10 groomsmen. We invited 225 people and anticipate 150-175.

Do any of these brothers actually want to be in the wedding, or is it more the parents who think this is how things "should" be done? I would never recommend adding people just because of "shoulds" or obligation. Regardless, it's completely up to you and your FS.

My husband has been in his brother's wedding party TWICE and they are not close at all. Both times it was awkward and needlessly expensive. All because their dad has an image in his head of what is proper.