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Just Said Yes July 2017

Bridal Party Escorts? A must or skip it?

Raechelle, on May 1, 2017 at 8:35 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

My fiance and I dont have any bridesmaids, maid of honor, best man or groomsmen. Our Mom's and his sister are single and my Mom wants me to ask wedding guests (family) to escort them down the aisle, back up the aisle, then have them line up for the reception intro after which everyone will sit down to eat and for the escorts to pull out their chairs to seat them for dinner. I feel that is asking too much and the very reason why we didn't want a traditional bridal party. We just want folks to come and be guests. Am I being difficult? Should I ask guests to now "work" during my wedding? The request feels a little selfish bc my Mom feels a way abiut being single during my wedding. Plus my Dad is married and will be bringing his wife (who I adore) and new family.

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Latest activity by Amandaw, on May 1, 2017 at 11:40 PM
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    VIP October 2017
    Carousel ·
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    IMO pulling out their chairs is a bit over the top.

    Were you planning to have ushers for the ceremony? If your mom wants to be escorted down the aisle, maybe an usher could seat her during the processional.

    I think it would be cool for your FH's mom and sister to be one another's escorts/walking down the aisle buddies

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  • Steph
    Super June 2018
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    Have you asked your FMIL and FSIL how they feel about it? Not everyone would be comfortable being announced at the reception. Also if you do announce them, you should announce the Dads as well.

    I agree pulling out the chairs is a little much. As for walking down the aisle, if your mom is really uncomfortable walking alone and you don't have ushers, I personally, would tell her to ask someone herself, though that may not be the best way, depending on your relationship with your mom.

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  • K
    Super July 2017
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    We're skipping all of that- I expect family to be seated before fh walks out- the only people walking the aisle is fh then me...

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    Just Said Yes July 2017
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    Thank you ladies for responding!

    I should mention that my Dad will be there to walk me down the ailse but my FFIL will not be in attendance.

    Karen, you gave me something to think about, canceling the ceremony processional. The way the ceremony will be setup is that the aisle will be blocked off until I, the bride, come down the center. My family who I wanted to walk in the processional, we're going to have to walk around the sides of the seating area to get to their seats. So it does seem silly to have them walk at all.

    Steph, good point! I willl ask my FSIL & FMIL if they want to be announced. I hadn't thought of that and as single women of a certain age, that makes sense.

    Carousel, we have no escorts. It's literally just the two of us up there. Outside of my Dad walking me down the aisle, I don't need anyone else to do anything but to relax and enjoy the day (the way I want/wish for).

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  • Amandaw
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    My first marriage the parents wanted to walk down the isle so i had ffil then fmil then mob then groom. That way everyone walked down and no one felt like they were being noticed as being single. (No one was songle but they were divorced from one another)

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