Bridal party - don’t know each other

Don’t worry about it! Bridesmaids really don’t have to be chummy. Polite and nice to each other is plenty to enjoy a day.

I had four bridesmaids and a bride's man (my brother). Husband had four groomsmen and a groomswoman. The morning of my four bridesmaids and the groomswoman got ready with me. One bridesmaid only knew me other than having met the others at my shower, another bridesmaid knew the groomswoman, and the other two were my sister and my brother's wife so of course they know each other. My sister had met the groomswoman when we went dress shopping and couldn't stand her. The groomswoman can very outspoken and rude. She was very nasty to my sister when we went dress shopping so I made sure to keep them apart as much as possible which wasn't hard since my sister came larer in the morning and the groomswoman was there first thing in the morning since that's when she was scheduled to have her hair done. Once her hair was done she went and did her own thing until pictures. Otherwise everyone meshed really well.

View Quoted Comment Thanks, Kylie! This actually makes me feel better! I guess I’m afraid of any awkwardness 🤪

I was a bridesmaid at my FSIL's wedding (sister of my FH) and I only knew the Bride, Groom, and the immediate family of the bride. I had met the MOH once before but otherwise did not know the other bridesmaids at all. It worked out just fine since we were all comfortable enough to get ready together and give eachother honest critique when somwone asked (Should I wear these earing or those? Is this eyeshadow to dark? etc.) Only the MOH and Best Man were at the head table so the rest of us could sit with our SO's and friends we knew at dinner.



Make sure you give your bridal party a space and time to have a quiet moment if they need it. That can make a huge difference when you have a lot of pre-wedding events surrounded by strangers, even nice ones.

View Quoted Comment Awesome advice!!! Thank you so much!

I was a bridesmaid in my (now) BIL &SIL wedding and I was the only one who didn’t know anyone. It’s not ideal, but it is what it is. I went into it knowing that would be the case and just did my best to chat with them while getting ready and hanging out. Like others said, bffs isn’t necessary as long as everyone is cordial and excited for you.

I had 9 bridesmaids lol (I know I’m crazy)


But not all of them knew each other, my SIL “C” is now married to my high school best friend “M”’s ex boyfriend. “M” lives 12 hours away and has only met 2 of the other girls previously. My MOH “A” lives 13 hours away but has met all but one of my bm’s. 2 of my girls do not get along at ALL but did an amazing job through all things wedding! The others knew each other a little bit and 3 of them get together often. Definitely an assortment!

I was MOH in my sisters wedding and never ever met one of the bridesmaids until the day of. I know for a fact that two of the other BMs had never met her either, unsure about the last one. I won't say we really "jived," but there also wasn't any animosity. Just coexisted and all had fun and everything was fine.

For mine, two had met before, not friends. 3 of 4 met and went dress shopping without me, weeks before we all met just days before the wedding. I had a 5 month wedding, and knew the 3 local ones would be away, when I asked.,.. Friends. in 3 locations ( not bridesmaids) volunteered to each give small showers, plus MOG who invited my bridesmaids near her for the summer, when I saw them. ... 😊I have been in bridal parties where I knew all, and many more when I knew 1 or none. I do not mind that. What I hate is brides determined you will become friends, who schedule activities, and spa days and winery trips, to get to know each other. Wasted energy, since we only need to get along for 1.5 days.

View Quoted Comment Perfect! That’s all I want!


Thanks, Carissa!!

I have friends from different friends groups and family in my bridal party. I was nervous about them meeting and such because they have different personalities and interests for sure. Everyone was civil and I thought it was nice when I overheard by one friend from work ask my friend from high school about how we became friends. Unless your bridesmaids have difficult personalities, I’m sure they’ll be cordial and get along for your sake.

None of my bridal party knew one another. However, between being together at showers, the bachelorette party, and luncheons, they got to know one another and were all friends by my wedding say.

My sister's wedding there were 6 of us, 4 of my sisters college friends, me and the grooms sister. The grooms sister only knew me (and I had only met her a couple of times prior), and I barely knew most of the college friends, and it all turned out fine.

My college best friends wedding was similar, it was me, one of her childhood friends and four of her cousins. The cousins were all super close and the childhood friend and I stuck together a lot, but all 6 of us really got along well (I actually have stayed in touch with two of the cousins, years later)