I got engaged a couple months ago and I am starting to figure out who should be in my bridal party. My FH and I decided that we both want our siblings (He has a brother; I have a brother and a sister) and then a few friends from different phases in our life. Right now he has a list of 6 groomsmen and I have 7 bridesmaids. My FH's brother just got married in March and my brother and his girlfriend have been together for almost 6 years. At first I wasn't going to have my brother's girlfriend or my FH's sister-in-law in the bridal party. I was going to have them each do a reading so they would have a special role.
A few days ago my mother and my sister both mentioned that they thought my brother's girlfriend would most likely be very upset that she wasn't in my wedding (She's an only child so she has always put in extra effort with my sister and I and there's a very real possibility that by the time I get married that my brother and her would be engaged). I am not opposed to having her in my wedding but I feel like if I have her then it would be very odd not to have my FH's sister-in-law; bringing my total number of bridesmaid up to 9 which i think is too many especially if my FH only has 6 groomsmen. I get along great with both my brother's girlfriend and my FH's sister-in-law so I don't know what to do.
I apologize for the long message but I appreciate any insight or advice!
