Bridal party dates on party bus?

I would definitely allow them... Nobody will want to wait alone.

View Quoted Comment That’s my thought as well. Thanks!

We want all of the bridal party dates/spouses to be involved in all wedding related events, including transportation & rehearsal dinner. I would say yes!

We allowed all of the SOs of our wedding party to come on the shuttle with us, and only one of them actually took us up on the offer. The rest of them knew many of the guests (and were friends with some of the other wedding party SOs) and they decided that they wanted to just get to the cocktail hour earlier and mingle. I would definitely give them the offer and let them choose if they wanted to join or not.

No, spouses of wedding party members don't need to be included in anything except the rehearsal dinner. And they won't want to sit around for hours watching you all take pictures, trust me. My poor H had to do that at my sister's wedding, because she scheduled immediate family pics at the same time as wedding party pics, and he was left twiddling his thumbs, miserable, for 2 hours, on a hot bus, waiting to be in like 3 pics. He SO much would have preferred to just go to the venue with the rest of the guests.

ETA all of our bridal party members were married, and none of their spouses came early for photos, they went on the later bus with everyone else. This isn't something people want to be included in.

This is one of the few times I think you DONT have to include SOs in a wedding related "activity". I've been in a WP 3 times, each time I introduced my now FH to the dates of other BP members at the rehearsal dinner and they hung out prior to the ceremony and rode over together, it wasn't a big deal. Or FH slept in at the hotel and started getting ready after I left.

Also, that's how many extra people that have to be ready to go at the same time as the BP? And they'll be dressed up sitting around while others are taking pictures when they could be relaxing before the ceremony?

in the last wedding I was in, 2 GM's wives tagged along for every second of the day, and they had to constantly be told to move out of pictures and leave their husbands be. Their spouses may not be the same way, but it was very weird and made pictures a lot less fun.

We did our photos at our venue, so no bus/transport other than ubers, but we made it clear that partners and spouses were totally invited to come hang out before the ceremony. it's a lovely gesture . as PPs have said they may want to do other things, depending on where your ceremony and photos are, but i think it's nice to offer.