Bridal Party Dancing

I’ve never heard of bridal party members dancing with one another. That’s actually really weird and I would never expect, or even ask, my bridal party to do that. If they want to dance, they can dance with their SO’s.
Also, if you want a head table, then have one. Their SO’s will be fine sitting with the other SO’s or with other guests for a 20-30 minute dinner.

I really haven't heard of that dancing requirement either. I wouldn't push it and I'd just leave it optional. For the seating, please don't separate BP members from their SOs!

I've heard of it and seen it before but it's kind of old fashioned and I dont think most people feel very comfortable with it (the bridal party or their plus ones) so I would scrap that. Tell your mother that the tradition is so old that most people wouldnt even know about it so not committing any faux paus. It makes people uncomfortable and we want our guests to enjoy themselves the whole time.

I was recently at a wedding where my FH was a groomsmen and I was only a guest. The couple had a table for the bridal party and their significant others, and they actually did the “bridal party dance” thing too where they called the bridal party to dance with the couple after the first dance. They asked significant others to join the dance floor with the bridal party which was considerate. It was definitely super awkward though because we were all trying to dance together to “start the dance floor” and it was obvious some of the bridal party members were shy and felt out of place. Overall, it was the only wedding I’ve been to that has done this, so I recommend keeping your bridal party in mind and if it would make them uncomfortable

I’ve never heard of or seen anything like this at a wedding and would be extremely put off if the couple expected me to dance with some stranger. A good DJ will get people on the dance floor, it’s not the bridal party’s job.

Never heard of this and I totally agree, how awkward! I would at most, just suggest to the bridal party that if they want to, a great time to join in dancing would be to join in after the first dance with whoever they fee like dancing.

I’ve never heard of this. As an SO or as a BP member would make me pretty uncomfortable.

I haven’t seen this done since the 90’s/early 00’s. As a pp said it’s very old fashioned, I won’t be doing it at my wedding. Most of my bridal party have spouses so I’m pretty sure it’ll be awkward.

I had to do this as a bridesmaid years ago. The groomsman I was paired with had a wife and the flower girl was his daughter. It was incredibly awkward and his daughter came over and I just let her dance with him and stepped off the dance floor. Don’t do this to your bridal party!

I have never heard of this either. At my wedding, we had the first dance right after our grand entrance. Then, we had the father/daughter and mother/son dances right after dinner. Those opened the dance floor. Bridal party only danced if they wanted to and with who they wanted to.

I've had to do it before. To be honest, it isn't really done any longer in my neck of the woods, and the time I had to do it, it was totally awkward.

View Quoted Comment I figured it was very old fashioned. My parents have been married almost 30 years and even though she's said "When I got married we did this." I explained that no one knows about that, not even her co-worker knew what it was and she's the same age as my mother. She's being so adamant about it but I really don't want or think it needs to be done. It'll be too awkward.

I’ve done this and been on both sides, being both a guest and a BM. It’s really not a big deal. I don’t understand couples that can’t stand to be separated for one song so the bride and groom can get some pictures of them dancing with their bridal party. It may be something that’s considered old fashioned, but it’s really up to you if it’s something you want. But to me, it’s not awkward at all and can actually be fun goofing off dancing around the bride and groom while they’re being all serious and lovey.

I think this is maybe an older tradition? I personally will not be doing this- I feel like it would be incredibly awkward! It’s your wedding so do what you think!

Never heard of this either. Frankly, it's a dumb idea. When my brother got married over 30 years ago, I wasn't dating anyone at the time, so he and my sister-in-law paired me up with the only single groomsman. This way I had someone to dance with. The rest of the bridal party was either married or had a S.O. I'm not doing it to my bridal party, but I am going to pair up my unmarried niece bridesmaid with my younger stepson-to-be groomsman because I think they'd hit it off.

Never heard of it and I have been going to weddings since the mid 70's!!! Don't cave on this with your mom.

I've been in 4 weddings and have never had to do this. This sounds like a very outdated concept to me.

View Quoted Comment I don't want to cave and we've been butting heads almost constantly with wedding stuff. I know she wants to help and she does have some good ideas but she tends to continue through with some ideas even after I've said no to them. It can turn into small fights and then my father just ends up getting upset with me too. I love and appreciate her help but sometimes she needs to just accept I don't like something and back off..not go out and buy/make said materials and items just to try and show why it could be a good idea. Its quite frustrating sometimes.

It sounds like she has an orchestrated idea of what this should look like, and it is just odd. I am sorry your mom is being difficult.