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Bridal Party Confusion

April, on May 21, 2019 at 7:59 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 4

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So I decided at the beginning of planning for the wedding that I don't want a bridal party. Although my FH could come up with 2 guys he'd be cool with having as groomsmen. I couldn't decide on anybody that I'm that close to at the moment. I'm content with my decision.
When I was going dress shopping, my FH said I should go with someone, so I invited a couple ladies from my hobby group. Thing is they've been asking what are my colors and what they should wear. My mom is asking the same thing lately. And my mom has asked my 3 year old niece if she wants to be or is excited to be a flower girl, though I never mentioned anything about a flower girl. I'm under three impression that they think they're in the wedding party, but the is no wedding party and I don't care what color they all wear, I just hope they all attend. How do I make that clear to them?

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Latest activity by Sinéad, on May 23, 2019 at 7:09 AM

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Alyssa · on May 21, 2019 at 8:03 AM
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I would maybe try to bring it up in casual conversation at first. It does seem like they think they are in it but you don't want to just call them out on it. I'm sure if they are in a hobby group of yours you see them and wedding talk will come up so I would just mention that you and your FH are not planning to have a wedding party.
Now as for your mom, I think you can be a little more blunt with her and just let her know that you have not yet decided if there will be a flower girl, or that you have decided there will not be one and just ask that she doesn't tell people they are in the wedding moving forward.
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SraDeCarrillo · on May 21, 2019 at 8:15 AM
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My family asked similar questions and I basically said “These are the wedding colors. Wear whatever you want. If you want to coordinate for the sake of family pictures and group shots, go ahead. Just know that we’re not having a bridal party. I don’t want to stress over what anyone is wearing or what they are doing. I don’t plan to have anyone else walking down the aisle.”
Honestly, I thInk they were all relieved that they don't have to deal with buying dresses and accessories to coordinate. They have no responsibilities in the wedding.
Less stress for me. Too many people have bridal party drama.
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Mrs. H · on May 21, 2019 at 8:44 AM
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I'm so sorry your family is making assumptions… there's nothing more awkward IMO. Honestly, I would just say, "Our wedding colors are x, y, z, but we are not planning on having a wedding party." You don't really owe them any further explanation
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Sinéad · on May 23, 2019 at 7:09 AM
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Hi April! I’m sorry that this has happened and you feel like you need to clarify your plans to your family and friends.
The pp’s have already given some great advice. You should bring it up in conversation with your friends that you are not having a bridal party. I’m sure they will prefer to know your plans and did not mean to make assumptions.
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