Bridal party communication

I was not involved with planning my shower or bachelorette party in any way besides providing a guest list. My maid and matron of honor emailed or texted people individually about bachelorette party stuff.

The groupme app. Its awesome, FREE, on Android and iPhone and the charts can be muted so you don't get notifications all day of you don't want them. Also, you can make it so that only you can add people.

So we have 3 ppl in the bridal party who aren't really involved we've messaged them but they're not responding. A lot of the planning we're doing but we need to figure out scheduled with everyone. So i guess in a way I'm frustrated with the non communication.

Shortly after I asked them all to be in the bridal party I created a group chat to introduce them and encouraged them to save eachother's numbers. Many of them mentioned that they'd want involvement in the planning of the shower so when my mom was ready to begin planning that, she texted my MOH and she made a group chat with my mom and bridesmaids. Then my MOH asked if I wanted anyone other than the bridesmaids invited to my bachelorette, and she made a group chat with the girls attending the bachelorette.

It's important to remember that planning isn't everyone's thing. Within the group chat there will be people who answer all the time with thousands of ideas and there will be people that never answer unless its a direct question to them and never contribute ideas. So don't worry too much about anyone that doesn't answer, it's very normal and every bridal party has someone that's not into contributing ideas and conversation about the wedding

My MOH made a Facebook group for bachelorette party information, my fiance's best man is doing the same thing! I have a group text with all of them for other information. I'm not really involved with planning the bachelorette though.

View Quoted Comment Yeah but my thing is 2 of the ppl are one of the MOH and the best man

We just have a group text going with updates. I am assuming that my MaidOH and MatOH are chatting on their own because there is a semi-surprise shower in the works (I know when, but nothing else)!

The guys do it via email; the girls are doing it through a group text. For the bachelorette party, my MOH did a separate text or email (wasn’t on that lol).

If they want to be in contact and don't have each other's contact information they can ask you for it. Since they don't have to plan anything if they don't want to, stay out of it

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Is your wedding date correct on here? October 2019? If so, it's because it's too early for them to be more involved. We are getting married three weeks after you, and I recently asked my bridal party (a little on the early side, I know) and I just put together one group chat for everyone to say who they were because two of them asked me to do that so they have everyone's number. Otherwise none of us have talked in the group chat since and there's nothing wedding-related to talk with them about for at least several months. What do you need to schedule with them this far out?

I'm going to send an email from my personal account to my wedding account and BCC my bridal party on it, letting them all know that they are all BCC'ed with a quick questionnaire (things I would like to know from them so I can make things easier on them the day - like food allergies/restrictions for getting ready food ordering). From that they can choose to relply all and give the others their phone numbers/emails or not. I will be putting a little meet each other info into it as well, but I'm letting them decide how much to share with each other. Most are my sisters (3 out of 4 are bridesmaids the 4th is our Herald) so they already know each other very very well and my friends both know my sisters fairly well, just not each other.

View Quoted Comment Yeah so our bridal party is all family that we've known for years so that's why it's frustrating i get its also earthly but since we're out in utah and them in cali wed rather have them be able to requests days off so we don't have to worry about working to much with everyone's schedule

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They are only really required to be there for your wedding day, so if there is something else you would really like, you are going to have to tell them specifically and be ok if they cant all fit it in. 2 of my sisters live overseas, I knew going in that they werent going to be helping with anything - though one wants to be kept in the loop about everything!