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Ashley
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Bridal Party and Groomsmen

Ashley, on August 11, 2020 at 2:18 PM Posted in Planning 0 9
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My fiancee and I are a bit confused on etquette for our wedding party. In particular, there is a couple we have been hanging out with frequently since COVID started. We have become pretty good friends, especially since they live with my fiancees best friend/best man. I am going to invite the girl (C) to be my bridesmaid, along with the best man's girlfriend as a bridesmaid and my aunt as my maid of honor. My fiancee is solid on having her best friend as her best man and two of our other close friends. However she feels that she has to invite the man (A) from the couple we've been hanging out with because I'm inviting C. Quite honestly, A frequently gets on our nerves and we noticed that we don't like to hang out with him too often because his personality doesn't mesh with ours. My fiancee still feels obliged to invite him though, even though one of her other groomsmen has a girlfriend that I am not inviting into my party.
Would it be rude to exclude him, or should we invite him since we are inviting his girlfriend, the best man, and the best man's girlfriend too?

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Latest activity by Suzie, on August 25, 2020 at 8:56 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Couples aren't a package deal when it comes to wedding parties. She doesn't have to include someone she doesn't want to include.

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  • Margaret
    Master October 2020
    Margaret ·
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    Are you asking to invite "A" to be a part of the bridal party or to be a guest?

    As a part of the bridal party, you definitely don't have to include him. But as a guest, know that he will probably come as your bridesmaids plus 1

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  • J
    Master October 2022
    Jana ·
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    Significant others are invited as a package deal. It doesn't matter if they've been together 6 months or 6 years. You are asking people to celebrate your relationship so you have to respect theirs too.
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  • J
    Master October 2022
    Jana ·
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    But just because one part of the couple is a bridesmaid, the other does not have to be a groomsman. You pick whomever is closest to you and most most supportive to be a bridesmaid/groomsman. The rest are guests.
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  • V
    Rockstar July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    You don't have include both people in your wedding party, but you should invite both people to the wedding
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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    I would invite him to the wedding since he is the significant other of someone else you are inviting, but you do not have to include him in the wedding party (regardless of if you are including his girlfriend in the wedding party). If you wanted to include him in some other way, you could ask him to be an usher, or do a reading, or some other task that makes him feel included. Otherwise, it is totally fine to invite him just as a guest.
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    Agreed. You have to invite significant others of all guests, or it's incredibly rude. I would never attend an event my husband (even when he was my boyfriend or fiance) was excluded from (besides something like an all female event like a bridal shower).

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  • Bo Miller
    Expert December 2020
    Bo Miller ·
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    They can be a guest. but they do not need to be in the wedding party.

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  • Suzie
    Super October 2021
    Suzie ·
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    As others have said, you do not need to invite both to be in the wedding party, but you should invite them both to attend. Do not invite someone out of obligation! Your bridal party should be your nearest and dearest.

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