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Savvy October 2019

Bridal Jewelry Help - Can a Bride Wear Gold?

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Cady, on July 15, 2019 at 1:44 PM

Bracelet in Question Hey everyone, I'm needing some advice on some things for my wedding. I want to wear gold. I only wear gold jewelry, my ring is a gold band with a solitaire diamond so I feel I should match that. I also have my Grammie's gold and opal bracelet (see above, pic of me wearing it)...

Bracelet in Question

Hey everyone, I'm needing some advice on some things for my wedding.

I want to wear gold. I only wear gold jewelry, my ring is a gold band with a solitaire diamond so I feel I should match that. I also have my Grammie's gold and opal bracelet (see above, pic of me wearing it) that means a lot to me that I want to wear, but am having trouble matching anything to it. My dress is ivory, but is really a more soft white than other ivory shades I've seen. It's a trumpet gown with full lace (no sparkle at all) and a very soft satin-y tulle as the bottom. Very romantic and vintage. I feel I can wear gold, but a more delicate jewelry set that compliments my Grammie's bracelet and it will look very nice as I'm a petite person.

Now the real issue. My mother is DETERMINED that I wear silver. She says I'm being stubborn and that bridal jewelry is silver and gold jewelry does NOT go with a wedding dress. She also keeps making me try on the most sparkley, bling-y, jeweled necklaces and earrings that I feel draw way too much attention away from me. I'm a 5ft, petite bride and again my dress is all lace so I feel is rather busy enough. I keep trying to explain that with my smaller frame I should wear a delicate jewelry and I want to wear something to go with my Grammie's jewelry. The other part is, this was HER mother who is no longer with us, but she's not backing down and it's starting to cause legitimate fights and she's said some pretty hurtful things to me in front of numerous people about it

I know it's MY wedding and I should do what makes me happy, and no my parents aren't paying for it (just the dress, not hair and makeup, shoes, accessories, etc.), but I can't get real constructive or helpful criticism from her on this just that this is a wedding and I'm supposed to be "over the top fancy" so I just wanted to get some advice.

Sorry for the long post, thanks for reading

Much Love,

Cady

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Master August 2018
Nemo · on July 16, 2019 at 11:42 AM
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Thanks so much! They are Kate Spade
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Expert January 2020
Crisa · on July 16, 2019 at 11:55 AM
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I'm with the other people on this post. I haven't heard of a bride not being allowed to wear gold. My ring is gold and whatever jewelry I decide to wear will be gold also. I think it will look beautiful whatever you decide. As long as you're happy with your look that's what matters.
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Devoted October 2019
Melodie · on July 16, 2019 at 1:24 PM
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That's not a thing, your mom is crazy. lol. Gold jewelry will look gorgeous. And, your ring is gold, so it just makes sense that you'd want it to coordinate. Plus the sentimental factor? OF COURSE you should wear the gold jewelry. It's beautiful, by the way. That necklace is so unique.
I'm sorry that your mom is being so ridiculous about this. The next time it comes up, be firm and tell her what you are doing. Then shut the conversation down and tell her that you won't be discussing it again. It sounds harsh, but I think it needs to be done.
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Sinéad · on July 17, 2019 at 7:32 AM
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They are stunning!! You will get much wear out of them in the future also!
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Savvy October 2019
Cady · on July 17, 2019 at 2:53 PM
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I only ever wear gold myself and my colors are burgundy and navy with touches of gold throughout. My mom is VERY against having any gold at all as she says everything is supposed to be as close to white as possible.
I feel like she has a weird idea of what happens at weddings. She's also now trying to convince me SHE should walk me down the aisle instead of my dad because "it's what brides are doing nowadays".
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Savvy October 2019
Cady · on July 17, 2019 at 2:58 PM
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Thank you, Cristy, that was really helpful and made me feel a lot more confident in my decisions! I'll also definitely remain poised and polite throughout more of the arguments (because as I said, she's not backing down), but will let her know I'm not budging on this and how much it means to me to wear it. I found some beautiful antique-ish looking earrings that have more sparkle that I feel may satisfy her a little more, but regardless I'm DEFINITELY wearing this jewelry!
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Savvy October 2019
Cady · on July 17, 2019 at 3:04 PM
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Judith,

Thanks so much! Hearing this from someone who used to do this stuff DEFINITELY helps me feel confident in my decisions lol I honestly think what hurts me the most is it was HER MOTHER'S jewelry that I'll be wearing and she keeps talking about how sad it is my Grammie can't be with us, but gets so mean about the jewelry and I don't see why she doesn't understand the sentiment. I have FULL backing from my fiance though and he told me the other day "I'm paying for the pictures and I say you're wearing that jewelry no ifs, ands, or buts! If I have to fight her, I will!" which was his way of saying he wants me to just be happy
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Savvy October 2019
Cady · on July 17, 2019 at 3:06 PM
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Thanks Melodie, that's really helpful. I'll stay firm! D:<
I know my Grammie would be happy to see me wearing it
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Nemo · on July 18, 2019 at 4:19 PM
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Thanks so much! I stumbled upon them by accident (I had actually already purchased my jewelry...oops hehe). I loved that they would be able to be worn again in the future!
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