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Just Said Yes October 2020

Breaking Down Tables for Dancing?

Ashley, on May 4, 2019 at 8:50 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10

Hi all!

We are in the midst of picking from two venues. One downside to the one we are leaning towards is that the ballroom just perfectly fits our size wedding without being jammed, but it will be full. In order to accommodate dancing after dinner in the same space (which we want), we would need to have some of the tables broken down and taken out. The venue coordinator said at that time they generally have people move out to another part of the house (it's an old estate house) for the cake cutting/ speeches while the take down 2-3 tables. But is this weird? We can set them back up in another adjoining room but I feel like I'm taking peoples' seats away. Does it matter because they are dancing? Is there a graceful way to do this???

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Latest activity by karen, on May 5, 2019 at 8:55 AM
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    Savvy June 2019
    Sierra ·
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    I’m interested in seeing additional comments because my venue is the same way. The advice we got from the venue coordinator is that some guests will eat and then leave so seating should be a non-issue for the few tables that must be taken away.
    We are thinking about placing a notice on the tables that we plan to move to let them know that after the meal, the tables will be removed so they can be ready to move when the time comes.
    Best of luck and try not to sweat it!
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    VIP July 2017
    Becky ·
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    I, personally, wouldn't be happy if my table were taken away - I like to be able to set my drink down, sit for a few minutes and talk to people, and have somewhere to just generally treat as "home base" - but not everyone feels that way.

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  • CDickman
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    CDickman ·
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    If it is a few tables taken down I would not mind. We passed up a venue cause it was all the tables. So like if his grandma wanted to stay after dinner she would not have a table to sit at.
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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
    MOB So Cal ·
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    I understand you may not have any other option, but as a guest, I wouldn't like having my table/chair taken away. If I like the music, I'll be a dancing fool, but even then, my purse is probably hanging on my chair, and at some point I'm going to want to sit down for a couple minutes and leave my drink somewhere while I'm dancing. If I suddenly didn't have a table/chair, I'd be trying to figure out where to put my stuff. Also, if only a couple of tables were removed, and one was mine, but most guests still had their original table/place, I'd feel kind of awkward about that. Like, "what the heck?!?! Why did they take away OUR seats?!?!?" Potentially, we'd leave early. (I'm not trying to be mean, just telling you what I'd think as a guest.)

    Can you cut your guest list to better fit the venue with a dance floor?

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    Master January 2019
    Cassidy ·
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    We didn’t go with a venue I loved because they were going to have to move the tables.
    I didn’t want to inconvience my guests, either by taking their seat or moving them so said seat could be taken. I was moving around for most of the night, some guests danced some, but many guests stayed seated. And the ones that were dancing, went and sat back down to rest from time to time.
    I Would go with the other venue or keep looking.
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  • Victoria
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    Victoria ·
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    I agree with this. Plus, I usually leave my purse under the table and wouldn't feel comfortable with staffers moving it around.
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    I have to agree with a few others. Even when I'm dancing, I usually want to take a break, and I'll leave my drink/purse at the table. If it was taken away, what will your guests do? Can you guarantee that guests will leave after dinner? Can you guarantee that a couple who was seated at 1 of the removed tables will be able to sit together at a new table without taking someone's seat?
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  • Mandi
    Master October 2020
    Mandi ·
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    I wouldn't be appreciative if my seat disappeared either.
    If its something you really want, you might try trimming your guest list a little to fit better.
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    Just Said Yes October 2020
    Ashley ·
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    Thanks everyone for the feedback so far. Our wedding os tint. We only have 50 guests so trimming back is not an option. 1 or 2 tables would need to be broken down and then they would be set back up but yes, I totally was worries about guests belongings. The only other thought I had would be to try to only have 1 table need to be broken down and have it actually be the head table so that we could have that discussion before hand and since they have access to the bride and groom suites upstairs for their things anyway.
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  • karen
    Master October 2017
    karen ·
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    Ashley, I think that is a good idea. I ran this by my mom, and she said she and her friends would prefer not being by the band, and would like being off in the other room where they could talk and hear each other better.

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