Break news to my mom and stepdad.

I'm guessing that the news you're breaking is that you don't want your step dad to walk you down the aisle? I would just let them know that while you love your step dad (assuming you have a good relationship since your mother suggested it in the first place), you don't want to take away from that moment with your dad. Could you do a first look with both dads individually? Or dance with both of them at your reception?

Why not include both? Your stepfather could walk you to the middle of the aisle, where your Dad will be waiting, since he will be the one the Minister asks " Who gives this woman in marriage today" and he can hand you off to your fiancee.


Or you can have them walk on either side of you. That way , you can include both equally.
Good luck.I would not exclude either, that may cause hurt feelings .
Good luck to you!

I agree with Anna, you should include both. This wedding is abut you and your FH, not your dad. If both your dad and step dad raised you, you should honor both by having them walk you down the aisle. Both of them should be adult enough to accept that and respect what YOU want to do for YOUR wedding (as long as what you want is both of them walking you).

The decision of who you walk with down the aisle should be entirely up to you. If you want to have them both walk you, that is fine. If you only want your father to walk you, that is fine. If you want to walk alone, that is fine. All of that said, it's entirely possible someone's feelings might get hurt when you tell them your decision. That doesn't mean you did anything wrong though. Just like you are responsible for your feelings, they are responsible for theirs.

It's best to make your choice and inform all affected parties with kindness and confidence. Then change the subject and move on with the rest of your planning.

I agree with Maggie! It is 100% up to you on who you want to walk you down the aisle. You should not have to bend on something like this to please others or because it’s what they want. It should be what you are most comfortable with.

I’m with Maggie you get to decide who walks you down the aisle. While step dad May have been in your life you may not see his role as walking you down the aisle important.


I would step back from the situation and think.

I understand your dilemma. I've had similar debates with myself about how to include my stepfather and stepmother, who have both been in my life since I was 6. Ultimately I decided that this is a moment my dad has probably been looking forward to since I was little, and I think it would hurt him to not have that moment walking me down the aisle. In my case, I also don't have a strong parental relationship with my stepparents - it's more of a friendship.

View Quoted Comment Thank you , feel more of my situation.
Your step dad been in your life way longer my step dad came into my life when I was in 6th grade (11-12 years old ). That 10 years in my life.

And I don’t wanna hurt my dad. So don’t even wanna ask. But then my mom mentioned it because my step dad is also help paying some of the wedding so my mom feels he should walk me down aisle too. And don’t wanna upset my step dad or my mom.

View Quoted Comment I think you should talk to your mom, and explain to her that this is a really special moment for your dad and it would hurt him to not have that experience. Maybe you can think of other ways to include your stepdad.