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Braidmaids Dress refund

Jaelle, on August 31, 2020 at 8:51 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7

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I need help with pointer on this one, it's a tricky one.So due to covid, I couldn't have all my bridesmaids,, only sister. I explained the situation to them and to be honest, I didn't get much support from them as much I would from a bridesmaid, who is generally a great friend. Once things started going less ideal, they both just withdraw from. We had concluded that we will have them wear their dresses regardless, next year when we have a Reception/Celebration of Marriage. But now I am thinking of refund them their money as they have been really unhelpful and withdrawn. Each dress was $400.I have arranged all the cash for them but don't how to word it or even how to go about it. Any suggestions?

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Latest activity by Maggie, on August 31, 2020 at 12:22 PM

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Meghan · on August 31, 2020 at 9:27 AM
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Yikes, $400?! I would probably be upset too if I felt like I was out of $400. What if you give them an options ? Option 1) Attend the reception/celebration and wear your dress then OR Option 2) refund their $400. Then they can decide what works best for them. It might save you money and your friendships.
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Jaelle · on August 31, 2020 at 9:34 AM
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Look, they had agreed to wear the dress at the reception just fine but was gonna refund the money plus give them the option to wear them, so that it's not a cost to them. I know what you mean with friendship, honestly it feels like it has dropped since
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Meghan · on August 31, 2020 at 9:36 AM
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I’m sorry this has happened. I am sure it is stressful on top of everything else. Have you tried talking to them about it? Maybe have a heart to heart talk, then offer them the refund. Good luck!!
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Chrysta · on August 31, 2020 at 10:28 AM
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I feel like you just answered your own question- you plan to refund the money and still allow them to wear the dresses to your reception. I think that is a very kind & respectful gesture since the dresses were quite expensive & that is likely why the girls are frustrated. As you said, these are your close friends.. I would just tell them that you wish to reimburse them for their bridesmaids dresses since they will not be standing with you in your wedding, but that you would be honored if they would hold onto them and wear them to celebrate with you next year.
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Katie · on August 31, 2020 at 10:52 AM
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Yeah, if I had to buy a $400 bridesmaid dress I would definitely not be happy.
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Trisha · on August 31, 2020 at 12:02 PM
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They Should Be More Understanding Honestly. Things Are Not Normal At All Right Now. They Should Keep Them For Next Year.
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Maggie · on August 31, 2020 at 12:22 PM
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Yeah, I agree that that is a lot of money to spend on a dress that may or may not be worn at some point (plus alterations, accessories, travel costs, etc.). On top of so many people really struggling for money right now due to jobs being affected by COVID. Since you say you have the money available, I would absolutely offer to refund the money. They may decline but I bet they will really appreciate your offer.
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