Boutonnieres or no?

Corsages would be ridiculous unless they are wearing traditional women's dresses, or palazzo pants or suits, in soft flowy style and materials. And bouts only go with tailored jackets, or occasionally man tailored vests. Many brides and bridesmaids do not carry bouquets. They choose a meaningful book or prayer book, or a keepsake. Something inspirational, or with memories or mementos, or even a small 4" x 6" or smaller book of family photos. Flowers out of season have only relatively recently been available any time year round, and even now that they are in many places, people do not always want them. But if you just want things to match, matching is not a necessary thing.

I think corsages would definitely be too promy-plus I think they're for women. I think a boutonniere would be nice but it would look ok without it as well.

Have you thought about having them wear pocket squares instead of boutonnières? It’s simple and helps set them apart from everyone else

I think the corsages would look very odd on men. They are normally worn by women. If you aren't doing suit jackets I wouldn't have them especially since none of the guys on the groom's side is going to have them.

I don't think our groomsmen will be having boutonnieres. I would pass on the corsages, but then again, it is your wedding and your day!! I know whatever decision you make, your wedding will be lovely regardless, Laura

I would definitely recommend a boutonniere for at least the men on your side. That way they match the bridesmaids. I still think the men can wear boutonnieres, even if they're not wearing jackets. Are they wearing suspenders? You can always clip them to the suspenders. You can have the male attendants on your side carry a bouquet too, if they want and you want them too. It really all comes down to what do you want. My husband is in the Army and got married in his dress blues. He couldn't wear a boutonniere on his uniform. We still had all the groomsmen wear one and we got him one for the tux he changed in to. That was what I wanted though. I think it's all about your preference! Here's a few photos I found that might help you decide.

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View Quoted Comment They'll be wearing vests. FH specifically vetoed bouts for his side, but I agree that I feel like my side should have them if only not to look out of place next to the ladies.

I think bouts work to show the bridesmen are on your side , I’d just take care not to ‘upstage’ the groom. We had boutonnières with vests bc we wanted boutonnières 🤷🏻‍♀️

I would have them wear/hold nothing. If the groomsmen aren't wearing bouts then it may look like these 2 gentleman are the most important men of the bridal party (they will stand out).

I had to make a similar decision as I have a "bridesman". All of the groomsmen are wearing boutonniere's and the florist kept making the bridesman's bout different in our quotes (more so to match the bridesmaids bouquets- more florals) but ultimately we decided to match his to the groomsmen. Or else it looked like he was the best man or something.

Our bridesmen wore boutonnieres without suit jackets. They wore suspenders and bow ties and the bout really completed the look, in my opinion.

Don't make them wear anything. My husband didn't wear a boutonniere either and we didn't miss it.During the ceremony