Boutineere or no?

If he is escorting MOG down the aisle I would say yes. I'm sure he would feel honored to be included.

I agree with PP, where I'd only give to him if he's escorting her down the aisle

As PPs said, I'd go ahead and get a boutonniere for him!

I would also get him a bout.

Honestly I would ask your FH how he feels about it. Is he close with this guy? I think it makes a difference if they've been dating a few months vs a few years. My FH mom passed when he was young so I understand how it can be a touchy and difficult situation. When we decide on these sort of things I ask my FH and possibly his Dad and we do what they want because they are the ones who lost someone. Just my opinion. I'm sure it will be great either way 😊

View Quoted Comment I 100% agree with this. If they're close, then I'd say give him one but if not, he doesnt need one.

I would say no.

Plus it might seem like he's replacing your FHs dad

View Quoted Comment This is exactly how my FH felt. After his mom died his dad didn't date for a really long time, like ten years, so he's still adjusting to his dad being with someone else. He's been dating the same woman about 4 years now and we love her very much but at the end of the day she is not his mom. I also know that she is on no way offended that we didn't include her in anything for just the parents. The only thing I would do is if you're doing a grand entrance and the parents are included I would let him be included in that as her escort 😁

Thank you everyone. They've been together for a while, but FH definitely doesn't relate to him as father figure. I'm doing a memorial seat for his dad. He will enter with her, but FH doesn't want him included with family pics and the like. Think I'll still do a small flower for him to keep FMIL happy too....