Nicole
Super August 2020

Bouquet/garter Toss

Nicole, on July 9, 2021 at 11:31 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 15
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Has anyone ever done both without the groom taking off the garter off the bride? I don’t really want to have my husband do that in front of family even though it’s tradition. Can we just toss the bouquet and garter?

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Latest activity by Gbees4121, on July 29, 2021 at 2:58 PM
  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
    Sarah ·
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    You can do this however you want to. You can also do one and not the other, or skip them both entirely. There's no rules.

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    Dedicated May 2022
    Amanda ·
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    Seconded. There are no rules! Do whatever you want. I don’t think that’s weird at all. You could just slide it off and hand it to him discreetly.
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  • Nicole
    Master September 2020
    Nicole ·
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    I'd personally skip these, since I don't like them, but if you want to have tosses, I definitely would give your husband the garter prior to the toss. As a guest, I always hate seeing the man go up the woman's dress in front of everyone; it always turns out much more crude than it's supposed to be.

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    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    Thirded. Smiley laugh Only include these activities if you both really want them. If you decide to skip them entirely, no one will miss them.

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  • Stacey
    Super May 2021
    Stacey Online ·
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    We skipped them. Don't do anything just for the sake of tradition if it isn't something you truly value.

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  • Jessyca
    Dedicated September 2021
    Jessyca ·
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    I'm skipping both entirely - totally not a requirement!

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  • Josie
    Dedicated October 2022
    Josie ·
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    I feel the same, it's awkward! When I see the groom go under the dress at weddings, it makes me cringe and I always think to myself, 'I won't do this at my wedding', so we're skipping it, but might keep the bouquet toss. You can skip it entirely if you want or do one but not the other, (or just toss the garter). Your wedding, your rules.

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  • Alex
    Dedicated October 2021
    Alex ·
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    I’m skipping both 🤷🏼‍♀️ Not important to us (and also cringy to both of us haha) so we’re scrapping it!
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  • Gbees4121
    Dedicated October 2021
    Gbees4121 ·
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    I don't see why you couldn't! No one will miss the awkwardness of the removal anyway. But if you still want to do the "toss," but not the removal of it, will the one who catches it have to put it on the one who catches the bouquet or will you nix that too?
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
    Michelle ·
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    Do whatever works for you. I attended a wedding where the groom tossed his boutonnière instead of the garter and it was well received.
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    Just Said Yes August 2021
    Maire ·
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    I will skip it but my friend had a random garter (not her own) hidden in a balloon and a bunch of balloons and the men/boys where stepping on balloons to find the garter. It was funny and appropriate, no showing your underwear to your grandma Smiley smile

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  • Tiffany
    Dedicated February 2020
    Tiffany ·
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    We didn't do a bouquet toss or a garter toss. I personally find them outdated and silly. Totally my opinion! No one seemed to miss it. It just gave us more time to party!

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  • Ashlee
    Expert September 2022
    Ashlee ·
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    My FH wants to do these, but I want to skip them. We'll have around 20 single people of each gender, so numbers aren't the issue, but I just think they're outdated. I also don't want my fiance to go up my dress to get a garter so if we do end up doing it, I'll probably have a "toss" garter, my florist is throwing in a toss bouquet for free with my bridal bouquet purchase.

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    Savvy October 2021
    Nadija ·
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    You can do it however you want! If you just want to toss them go ahead! If you want to skip the whole thing do that! We’re skipping it altogether and I doubt anyone will even notice! And I’m definitely not having him go up my dress in front of everyone! I’ve never liked seeing that!
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  • Gbees4121
    Dedicated October 2021
    Gbees4121 ·
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    Hi Nicole! I've seen it done with just a bouquet toss (no garter toss). I don't see why you couldn't do a bouquet and garter toss (without the removal) though. It's your day! Just remove it before you do you entrance and have him have it in his jacket pocket 😆 just remember that usually whoever catches the garter has to then put it on the person who caught the bouquet. You can always work with your DJ to avoid that though!!
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