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Devoted November 2020

Bouquet toss?

Shirley, on August 25, 2020 at 5:29 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 20
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I have time to make the decision, but I'm wondering whether I should do a bouquet toss at my wedding reception/celebration. Most of my friends and cousins are unmarried, so there would be enough people theoretically to make it fun. And I have always loved getting in there as a guest, even when I was in a relationship. But I've heard that some women find it off-putting as a guest. What would/did you all do?

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Latest activity by Elaine, on August 28, 2020 at 8:43 PM
  • Hanna
    VIP June 2019
    Hanna ·
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    I personally chose not to do a bouquet toss because I didn't want to make single female guests feel uncomfortable, and we also didn't want to further the gender stereotypes behind the bouquet toss. But at the end of the day, it's a personal choice. If you have a lot of single female friends who will be in attendance and who you think would enjoy it (and if YOU want one), then you should go for it

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  • T
    Devoted May 2021
    Trinity ·
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    I think it's totally up to you. I have been to many weddings, and some do it, some don't. I am also thinking about this. I do not have a lot of unmarried friends though.

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  • Molly
    VIP September 2020
    Molly ·
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    I have participated in bouquet tosses twice and did not feel awkward if there a good amount of other people out there too. I personally am not doing one because I only have 3 single women coming.

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  • Erin
    Expert August 2020
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    I didn’t do that or the garter toss. I always felt awkward and it looked awkward at weddings I’ve attended. Just my personal preference.
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  • M
    Super January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    I skipped it (and the garter toss) at my wedding. I have always found it off-putting as a guest, so it was never on my radar to have at my own wedding. You can certainly still do one if you want, but I would keep your expectations low on participation.

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  • Jana
    Master October 2022
    Jana ·
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    Some women love it, some hate it. If you do decide to have the toss, let them decide whether to participate and make sure your dj is aware that bullying will not happen.


    Another option is to have it open to all women with lottery scratch tickets or a gift card or something similar as an incentive.
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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I think it’s fine to have it if that’s what you want not everyone has to participate
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  • Meghan
    Rockstar October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    We skipped the bouquet toss because we don’t have many friends that are either single or in a relationship. We substituted an anniversary dance in its place. However, I’ve been a part of a bouquet toss before and I didn’t find it awkward.
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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa Online ·
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    I'm skipping it for my wedding, but it's totally personal preference as to whether you skip it or not! I've also seen fun alternatives for the toss bouquet as well (such as, passing it off to the next couple to be married, separating the flowers from the bouquet and presenting one to each single woman at the wedding, etc).
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  • Sherri
    Devoted August 2020
    Sherri ·
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    I skipped both. I was too private for a garter toss and after I evaluated the singles for the toss I realized there wasn't enough.


    My florist offered the toss bouquet for free so I instead swapped her for a free flower girl bouquet.
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  • M
    Dedicated May 2021
    Maybride ·
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    Most of my friends are now married, but I wouldn’t do one anyway. I’ve been pulled into a few bouquet tosses and it’s just awkward and slightly embarrassing.
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  • Rebecca
    Rockstar August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    I have enjoyed them, as a guest, but that was before most of my friends got married.

    We skipped it at ours, but I did give my sample bouquet to some friends who were engaged. (...Well, still are, because 2020.)

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  • Super August 2020
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    I'm almost never mad at the bride for doing a bouquet toss, but I HATE having to go up to catch it, so we definitely won't be doing one. I also don't love the idea of a bunch of people getting so close to each other right now because of covid, so that would probably dissuade me from doing one if I had been considering it.
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  • Leonardia
    Dedicated June 2021
    Leonardia ·
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    Due to our guest list we won't be. Majority is family and friends and I'm one of the last to get married lol. I do like one of the PP's post about doing an anniversary dance instead though!

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  • Shirley
    Devoted November 2020
    Shirley ·
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    What is an anniversary dance?
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  • Shirley
    Devoted November 2020
    Shirley ·
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    I love the alternatives you mentioned!
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  • Shirley
    Devoted November 2020
    Shirley ·
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    The garter toss has always made me uncomfortable as a guest. Definitely skipping that one
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  • Meghan
    Rockstar October 2019
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    DJ plays a song and all married couples get on the dance floor and dance. DJ announces anyone married less than 1 year to leave the floor, then 5 years, 10 year, so on and so fourth. The longest married couple get the bouquet. Our winners had been married 47 years.
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  • Shirley
    Devoted November 2020
    Shirley ·
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    Omg that is so much better, I am doing that
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  • Elaine
    Dedicated October 2020
    Elaine ·
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    I've thought about. I hated the bouquet toss too before I got engaged and would find creative ways to avoid them altogether. What I'm going to do, is just make a special announcement, if anyone wants it, just raise our hand. If no one wants it, okay, I'm keeping it.

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