I have time to make the decision, but I'm wondering whether I should do a bouquet toss at my wedding reception/celebration. Most of my friends and cousins are unmarried, so there would be enough people theoretically to make it fun. And I have always loved getting in there as a guest, even when I was in a relationship. But I've heard that some women find it off-putting as a guest. What would/did you all do?
I personally chose not to do a bouquet toss because I didn't want to make single female guests feel uncomfortable, and we also didn't want to further the gender stereotypes behind the bouquet toss. But at the end of the day, it's a personal choice. If you have a lot of single female friends who will be in attendance and who you think would enjoy it (and if YOU want one), then you should go for it
I skipped it (and the garter toss) at my wedding. I have always found it off-putting as a guest, so it was never on my radar to have at my own wedding. You can certainly still do one if you want, but I would keep your expectations low on participation.
We skipped the bouquet toss because we don’t have many friends that are either single or in a relationship. We substituted an anniversary dance in its place. However, I’ve been a part of a bouquet toss before and I didn’t find it awkward.
I'm skipping it for my wedding, but it's totally personal preference as to whether you skip it or not! I've also seen fun alternatives for the toss bouquet as well (such as, passing it off to the next couple to be married, separating the flowers from the bouquet and presenting one to each single woman at the wedding, etc).
I have enjoyed them, as a guest, but that was before most of my friends got married.
We skipped it at ours, but I did give my sample bouquet to some friends who were engaged. (...Well, still are, because 2020.)
I'm almost never mad at the bride for doing a bouquet toss, but I HATE having to go up to catch it, so we definitely won't be doing one. I also don't love the idea of a bunch of people getting so close to each other right now because of covid, so that would probably dissuade me from doing one if I had been considering it.
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DJ plays a song and all married couples get on the dance floor and dance. DJ announces anyone married less than 1 year to leave the floor, then 5 years, 10 year, so on and so fourth. The longest married couple get the bouquet. Our winners had been married 47 years.
I've thought about. I hated the bouquet toss too before I got engaged and would find creative ways to avoid them altogether. What I'm going to do, is just make a special announcement, if anyone wants it, just raise our hand. If no one wants it, okay, I'm keeping it.