Bouquet/ garter toss

No reason to. Honestly it's awkward and uncomfortable.

She probably asks all of those general questions to every one bc every wedding is different. Some may not even do a first dance or parent dances so im sure it's a formality. FH and I find the tosses very awkward so we aren't doing them. If you've always wanted to do it then go for it but it's definitely not necessary.

I was always against them until my friend told me at her wedding she attached $50 to the bouquet and garter. It totally changes the vibe because people actually want to participate.

@socialbride. That's a good idea. Btw we are date twins.

I'm not doing it since most of the people at the wedding are married and I don't want to single the few people out who aren't. Cuz I was at one a few years ago where it was just me and 2 other girls standing up there.... I felt so weird. But if you have the right crowd it can be so much fun!

I did them both. It was so awkward I actually apologized to my bff after (she got the ring from my cake pull [my bouquet weighed 25lbs. I wasn't throwing that]).

I hated every second of it because it was so cringe worthy and felt kinda sexists/reinforcing traditional gender roles (soooo not my DH and I). I regretted it and even deleted all the pictures.

We are not doing it cause I will only have about 3 people single there and I don't want to single them out and be like hey look at the only single people!

I'm thinking of doing a bouquet toss, but changing the wording when it's announced to have less of a "who's single & desperate to get hitched" vibe to it. Just the thought of the garter toss makes me feel uncomfortable though.

I think it totally depends on you and your crowd. When our close friends got married, they did a bouquet toss but no garter toss. Another wedding I went to recently, they did both the bouquet and garter toss, but I thought the garter toss was a little cringe-worthy... They did the whole thing where the groom has his hands tied behind his back and he has to retrieve the garter with his mouth...

FH told me he doesn't want to do the garter toss. He broke his back 10+ years ago and walks with a limp today because he can't feel his feet. He doesn't want to get down on the floor and then not be able to get back up again. A bit of a unique situation, I know. I think I'm going to pass on the bouquet toss, too. I don't think anyone will miss them.

He asked since everyone wants different things. Honestly they both are now seen as something more outdated and many couples are choosing not to do them. I agree that it can be very awkward. I know for myself I would hate having people watch that, and would feel a little awkward watching it as a guest. I also will have only a couple of single guests so there would be no point in it anyway.

You don't need anything to replace it or the time if you don't do it, good food drinks and music are what makes a good and fun event.

But if it's something you and your FH wants to do then do it.

We skipped it, and did not replace it with anything but dancing. My MC and DJ did a great job of keeping the dance floor full all night.

Also was recently at a wedding with the bouquet toss, and mostly everyone was in relationships, so it was really awkward as almost no one participated.

We're skipping it for all the reasons here. It's tacky and awkward and singles people out. Also I don't really need him digging up my dress in front of both families. We aren't doing anything instead, just skipping it all together.

It's 100% personal preference. I think this trend is becoming less prevalent nowadays though, and that's probably why she asked. A lot of people are opting out of it because they don't like the idea of having your groom go up your skirt in front of them and share a piece of lingerie with someone at the wedding, like his best friend or your creepy uncle Jim. Also, a lot of people don't really like the idea of calling out all the unmarried/single people at the wedding because it can make them feel uncomfortable and singled out. Some people still think it is fun, but it really depends on the crowd.

That said, we did not do one. Instead, we did an anniversary dance; we got all the married couples up on the dance floor, played a song, and the DJ started calling out dates like "if you've been married one month... one year... 5 years... 10 years..." etc and when each couples' length of their marriage was called they left the dance floor until the couple who has been married the longest is the only one left. We gave the bouquet to them. I did not get a garter at all. But you don't have to replace them with anything if you don't want to, we just did that because we wanted to.

I wanted to but I forgot all about getting the garter. Then, it didn't seem fair for me to do the bouquet toss when DH didn't get to do the garter toss. He was really excited about it. We didn't have a whole lot of single people there anyway.

I'm not doing either bc most of our friends are already married. We're not doing anything in its place, just keeping the party going.

We didn't do either. Not our idea of fun. We replaced it with more drinking and dancing.

We didn't do either because we thought they were awkward, but replaced it with an anniversary dance.

If most of your guests are married or in committed relationships, then the garter toss can be especially uncomfortable when it comes to putting the garter on the bouquet catcher.

ETA: I don't like anniversary dances much either, so if you decide not to do it I don't think you need to "replace" it with anything else.

I caught the bouquet at my cousin's wedding. There were three single ladies and it was awkward AF. There will be like two at my wedding, and I don't want to single them out. Plus, I've never seen guys be excited about the garter toss. I say skip it.