Botox plus other self enhancements

If you would truly feel better about yourself, if you can afford to maintain it, and you find a high quality surgeon, I su go for it. But do it because it would make you happy, not because you are comparing yourself to your FHs ex. They are an ex for a reason.

View Quoted Comment I dream of buying a cheap bra. Full stop. Lol.

I can hear my ex saying the bigger the better. I’m not worried about additional costs. It’s only money.

Something to keep in mind with implants is that some people are actually allergic to them and your body can begin to revolt as soon as they’re implanted. I know someone who just recently had to have hers removed because her body was rejecting the implants and they were causing all kinds of other medical conditions, including hair loss, weight gain, and immunity issues. Obviously I know this isn’t true for everyone, but it does happen.

View Quoted Comment 10000% true. My dream is just to be able to buy a cute bra that's not white, black, or nude and doesn't cost a fortune. Not to mention the back pain!

Clearly you can do what you want, but based on a couple things you've mentioned on this thread (e.g., "FH's ex had enormous breasts," your ex said "bigger is better"), I'd strongly encourage you to consider some therapy before you consider surgery. As other pps have mentioned, in my mind the only reason to do this is because it will make you happy. Some of your responses makes it sound like you might be insecure about your current appearance and I think that's a slippery slope in terms of a reason to make "enhancements" because you might be making them to please others.

A member of my extended family always had a "perfect" bigger-chested figure. After her third child, she wasn't happy with the natural changes and decided to get implants (her spouse didn't think it was needed, but supported her choice). She's a tiny woman to start with (under 5' and typically about 100 lbs). I have no idea, technically, what size she ended up following the surgery, but to me she looked disproportionately very large, and, honestly, "enhanced" -- not at all natural. She had a terrible time with clothes. Fairly early on, she regretted the surgery and how she looked, but figured it wasn't a big deal. Unfortunately, 13 years later she developed breast cancer. At first they had a very hard time diagnosing it because of the implants, and then once she had surgery, it turned out to be much worse than they originally thought. The implants were removed as part of her treatment and they did all they could with her reconstruction to rely on her own tissue as much as possible. They'll never know 100%, but there is a lot of evidence to suggest that her implants at least made her diagnosis and treatment longer and more difficult, even if the implants didn't actually contribute to her developing cancer in the first place. So, now she's a middle-aged mom of three (the youngest is 16) who lives with the threat of recurrence. She ****% regrets her decision to get implants and would be the first to say that doing it to help with her insecurities didn't actually make those better, and she would do anything if she could go back and change things. She would much rather have lived with "post-baby breasts" than think about leaving her kids without a mom. Clearly, that's not always the outcome, but like with any elective surgery, it's really important to understand the pros and cons, and more importantly what your motivation is for doing it. Good luck to you!

I will be getting botox and doing invisalign but I'm in my mid-30's with two kids so I was going to get these things regardless. I will also be getting facials and probably spray tanning prior to the big day but that's about it when it comes to "editing" my body.

If you were considering implants before then talk to your FH and ask him what he thinks as well. It is major surgery and can come with complications and implications. I have girlfriends who have them and love them and other's who had them taken out. If you're self-conscious enough about your body that you feel you need them to be happy than by all mean's talk it over with FH and figure it out, but if you're just wanting them for that moment in time, it might be something you don't need to put yourself through. In the end it is your body and your spending, no one else can ever make that decision for you.

Your wedding is such an exciting time, and I can totally understand wanting to feel your best on that special day. Remember, it's all about feeling comfortable and confident on your big day. Take your time to research and consult professionals to make the best decision for you. Best of luck with your wedding preparations!