Both parents have passed away :(

Although I am not in the same situation as you, I’m very sorry you are dealing with this and I can only imagine the feelings you are having. Sending love.

Sorry to hear you’ve lost both parents. I lost my dad 4.5 years ago but I still have my mom.

Yup. Both my parents are deceased. I was closest to my mom. Hard seeing pics of brides with their moms the day of. I scroll by quickly. I am so sorry. You're not alone.

https://grieftroop.com/real-stories/2019/4/11/planning-a-day-about-love-in-the-wake-of-loss

Hi Courtney, a friend of mine from college wrote this after she got married, it talks about how she planned her wedding while also honoring her parents. Both of her parents passed away within the same year or so, and she created this website/ group/ blog in a way to help her grieve. Feel free to give this a read, and take a look at what the website can offer.

I am so sorry for your loss, and I am sending you so much love.

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Thank you for writing me back. I was super close to my mom as well. I know it is going to be hard, so I was trying to see if there was anyone else out there going through the same thing. I can't even believe this is my life, but it is, and I still do want to having a wedding. How are you holding up? How are you getting by?

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Thank you for sending this along and for your kind words.

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Thank you for sharing. It doesn't; matter one or two parents; it is still such a terrible thing. At least I know I am not alone.

I lost my mom 7 years ago and I was very close to her. Planning this wedding has been difficult without her here. I think of all the things I want to share with her or get her opinion on. I honestly have felt her loss more this past year than before. You are not alone.

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Tina, thank you for reaching out. I am so sorry to hear about your mother. It is really hard--especially the dress shopping. I will be thinking of you too! Are you going to do anything in her honor at your wedding?

I have both mine with me still but I've lost people before that were close and I can only imagine your pain sending hugs your way

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Yeah sometimes life is not fair I feel you. You should still have your wedding. I am ok most of the time but some triggers of a reminder that my mom won't be there can make me sad. Most of time I am busy or happy planning and excited for the day but of course I miss her to be there to help me get dressed and see me. Not everyone gets everything in life but I know she would want me to have my day.

I'm sorry you're having to do this without your parents. I lost my mom 18 years ago, but it doesn't make it any easier doing this without her. This is my first time getting married. It's weird not being able to ask her what she thinks, or have her with me during planning. My dad is still alive, but he's very ill. Even if he lives another 4 months, he'll be too ill to attend the wedding. It's hard when I think about this special day going forward without them. All I can do is keep them close to my heart. I am lucky to have a wonderful brother and sister who are always there for me, and will be on my wedding day also. My brother will walk me down the aisle, and my sister is my MOH. I also have the best future in-laws a girl could ask for. I just try every day to count my blessings, be grateful for the wonderful people I have in my life, and not focus on the ones who are gone.

I feel for you, Courtney, and send hugs and good vibes your way!! I'm sure your parents will be smiling down on you!!

View Quoted Comment You’re welcome. Don’t ever be afraid to post your struggles on here, there are a lot of us that can relate or can at least help you through your struggles💚

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much for sharing. I can’t imagine what you are going though either, but it sounds like you have an amazing outlook and attitude. Your mom will be smiling down on you as well

I lost my mom 10 years ago, and my father passed a year later. It is hard to do the planning without them. I’ve already had to have a few awkward conversations with my future step daughters (who is giving you away? What will you do for the Father/ Daughter dance?...the answers are my brother and I haven’t decided yet). I know there will be more uncomfortable conversations with our vendors and officiant. I’m lucky in that our DJs have known FH since he was a kid and were a part of my life when I lost both parents. Our officiant is a friend, but he’s a newer friend. He knows my parents have passed, but its not a topic I just discuss.


FMIL is stepping up and being there for me, and I appreciate everything she is doing. My godmother is also assisting as she can from a distance. It isn’t the same, but I’m lucky to have people who are trying to give me that support I’m missing.