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Yam
VIP September 2019

Boss acting funny about my wedding

Yam, on August 23, 2019 at 12:40 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7
My boss likes hearing about my wedding. He isn’t married but it’s headed that direction for him with his g/f. We just kind of chat about it here or there, mainly to make fun of how expensive weddings are. Originally I had planned to cater it myself(I’m a chef) but my mother talked me out of it.
So I started looking at restaurants that would just drop off the food. I was talking to my boss about the options I was considering. He said hey why don’t you get the food from work? I could get a big discount. I said I’d think about it. Honestly I thought about it but I just don’t want food I’m around all day at my wedding and we have severe dietary restrictions for some guests.

So FH and I found a restaurant we were going to use and my boss brought up the offer again. I said we appreciate the offer but we had something different in mind.
The restaurant idea fell through, something hidden in their contract. Anyway. We ventured on and booked an actual caterer with vegetables she grows from her garden, her food was right up our alley and hey we get staff to serve it at our wedding. Perfect!

I told my boss about it and he just got this kind of hurt expression on his face and said he’d planned to just give us the food from work as a wedding present.

Oh.

Well now he looks kind of bummed out anytime he overhears anything about the wedding(lots of girls are getting married so we’re always chatting about it), he doesn’t seem to be interested at all anymore so I don’t really bring it up. This has just made things awkward.

I feel really bad.

7 Comments

Latest activity by Chandra, on August 23, 2019 at 6:34 PM
  • April
    Dedicated January 2020
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    Usually bosses aren't invited to their employees weddings because generally people aren't friends with their bosses like that. But if you are cool with your boss and they really do appreciate you, I can see how they'd want to do something special for your wedding even if that means they're not attending. In your case, they were hoping they could provide their business's services for you for free as your gift, but since you went a different route they have to come up with something else. That might be what's on their mind. Hopefully they get out of that funk and get back to being happy for you and your day.
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  • Yam
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    You’re right, I didn’t even think of that! I don’t expect gifts from anyone so that’s why I was kind of taken aback by it. I hope he’s not scrambling his brain trying to come up with something. He really looked hurt and bummed out about it, he’s never like that.
    FH and I just feel really bad for him.
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  • April
    Dedicated January 2020
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    Maybe consider having the rehearsal dinner or a bridal shower there where the food from work is provided
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  • Yam
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    That’s a cute idea! He could meet our families. I honestly didn’t even think of having rehearsal dinner at work. Sometimes I forget I work in a restaurant, I’m there every day, it becomes just an office to me.
    Thank you for the idea ❤️
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  • N
    Master January 2015
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    Aw it's nice that you have such a could relationship with your boss, he sounds like a nice guy. But don't feel bad, you want what you want and it wasn't like you turned it down to intentionally hurt his feelings. Maybe you could offer for him to do hors d’oeuvres for cocktail hour or something?

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  • Yam
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    He’s a great guy for sure. Unfortunately the caterer doesn’t allow it and she’s doing our hors d’oeuvres as well otherwise I’d be totally fine with that! I’m glad I won’t have to worry about service at the reception but man I hate seeing him bummed out.
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  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
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    Having him do the rehearsal would be a great idea!!
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