Yes, what made it boring was my boyfriend and i only knew the groom and the groom’s parents and brother. We were seated with older people we didn't know (we were 31 yrs old seated with 60/70 yr olds) that knew the bride only and we were at the table furthest from the bride and groom, neither of us was into dancing, so we left right after cake was served
I feel horrible saying it was boring, and maybe it was just a me thing. And maybe boring isn’t the right word. Part of it was the venue was HUGE and the tables were very far apart. It was a wedding venue, but the ceilings were so high and empty feeling I felt like I was in the school gym at prom.
It was also dry, and I was tired. I didn’t know anyone but the bride and groom and my fh (groom’s brother) but normally I can enjoy talking to new people and have fun. I had just been at a big convention that weekend so I think my battery was low. But I am so paranoid about a veneu being “too big” now!
Yes! My friends wedding was very boring. I’d say the main thing that made it that way was not having a DJ. They had a live duet. One played acoustic guitar and the other sang. There was no dancing. A DJ makes a wedding reception so much more fun!
One was a cousin I already wasn't fond of, and they had no DJ, just a playlist and speakers with no alcohol. Luckily I had to dip out for work pretty early into the reception and they knew ahead of time.
The second was my other cousin, and while they did have a DJ he played a lot of 60s music and really did not read the room well. It was also dry as it was in a community building, so we finished up there pretty quickly.
Being seated with people who were only interested in talking to one another. No proper mingling of any kind (too many separate areas, bar, lounge, patio etc). People's weird belief that a woman attending a wedding alone is some sort of 'threat'. So mainly social issues that aren't essentially related to the wedding itself.
My cousins wedding was boring. It had an uptight atmosphere. I'm not talking about it being fancy or a formal wedding. I'm saying that the family she married into had their noses in the air the whole time. Plus my whole family hates her husband so none of us wanted to really be there. It was just one of those weddings that had a bad atmosphere all together.
I’ve been to many dry weddings and many with alcohol and it all depends on the crowd. The boring ones have an overall dull vibe where no one knows anyone else, the uptight couple doesn’t bother to interact with guests even though they have plenty of opportunity and parents are equally rude, no decent food even if it’s just cake..make sure that is the best tasting cake ever made, and bad music that you can’t dance to. Alcohol would have made that 100x worse.
For me, the memorably boring ones have all been boring because we didn't really know anyone but the couple getting married. Obviously, I understand I can't really spend much time with the couple on their wedding day, so it's not like it's their fault. But this had made me revise my criteria for which invitations I accept.
The most boring one I went to was for a friend back in 2014. I love the couple dearly, but it just.... wasn't planned well. The ceremony site was really pretty, and the wedding party/couple/officiant were on a little deck overlooking a lake. However pretty it was, there was no shade for the guests and there were no mics. The officiant, bride, and groom are all pretty soft-spoken people, so I couldn't hear anything from my seat in the 5th row. After the ceremony they took pictures for about an hour, but there was no cocktail hour. The guests were literally just standing around with nothing to do other than talk to each other.
The reception did not get better.... it was on a large concrete slab with no shade at all and the sweetheart table was about 50ft away from the nearest guest table. There was no music whatsoever, and the only drink options were water and iced tea. The food was kind of potluck style all made and brought by (I think) the bride's family. It was good enough, I suppose, but not great. There didn't seem to be any real timeline or order of events. To be honest, the only "event" was the cutting of the cake. Everyone pretty much cleared out after that since we were roasting in the sun and many of us had a 2.5 hour drive to get back home. I love them oodles, but.... yeah, it was not a particularly pleasant wedding experience.
The only one I can think that was truly boring was my husband's friend's wedding.
Mind you, it was gorgeous. Aesthetically. It was at a breathtaking, unique venue. The groom suite is an antique train car, the reception was previously a house, full of beautiful antique woodwork and wrought iron and stained glass. The landscaping is immaculate, it's like a Disney movie. The bride meticulously planned every bit of décor, and it was absolutely stunning.
But because the reception venue used to be a house, it's laid out like a house. It has two floors, and there are walls separating various areas that made everything feel very blocked off. There were tables upstairs, so the guests seated up there didn't really bother coming down after they were seated. The bar is also segregated from the dance floor area (because it was at the front, near what would have been the dining room, while the dance floor was in the den area in the back, and like a house there were walls dividing these areas), and when given the choice between the bar and the dance floor, pretty much everyone picked the bar.
The bride also was very uptight about it being an "elegant" wedding, so the music played was boring. She banned basically all usual party music. The dance floor was essentially empty the entire night, between people not wanting to come downstairs, not wanting to leave the bar area, and the music just not being very fun or what anyone really wanted to dance to.
The most boring one I went to was my ex's sisters. The venue didn't allow alcohol (they got it super cheap because of it) but the reception was super dull and boring. Nobody danced. At all. I think we did very little at the end of the reception. But I'm positive it was due to no alcohol.
I went to a wedding last fall that wasn't necessarily boring, but it was a bit of a flop.
It was a Sunday wedding (so is mine), and it started a little earlier in the day. Food was GREAT! However.....
It was a bit of a monsoon outside and it was a pavillion venue. Like rained from the time we got there until the very end with the occasional 10 minute break. There was a sewage issue, so there was a bit of an atrocious smell. She lit a variety of candles to cover it, which really did help but they were all different scents.
There wasn't much dancing (I blame COVID for that) and a good portion of people just left immediately after dinner, and the rest mostly after the first dance. They didn't have a DJ, so the music quality (selection was great, but the actual output) was not great.
The most boring ones I've been to have had loads of speeches where people ramble on with private inside jokes that only the bridal party or family understand, or make inappropriate comments about past relationships the groom or bride have had, or how long the groom took to get around asking the bride to marry him!
At one wedding they were taking bets as to how long the best man and groom's speeches would be since they both fancy themselves as fantastic speakers. Each was about 15 minutes' long. Add in a few minutes for the bride and her dad, and you're looking at 40 minutes. Now... they weren't bad speakers - they were actually pretty good, but that is just WAY too long. They'd paid for a band, but because they were running late and the speeches went on and on, they probably only got about 1.5 hours of the 4 hours they paid for in the end.
Bad DJ and alcohol stopped after dinner except for bridal party. No one but the bride and one bridesmaid awkwardly danced. The groomsmen and grooms parents got into a drunken shouting match in front of everyone.
My cousins (both of them) ended up having a speeches from their father, both sisters, & best men and I’m like I don’t give a crap of hearing 15 minutes of speeches.
Then both of them stuck the cousins table in the back far away the family. Their friends were closer than us. Honestly I was mad (my revenge is exactly that they both on the last table and my friends are closer than them).
Isn't it funny how differently people view things! I'd *expect* as a cousin to be on a table at the back somewhere - I see my friends LOTS more often than my cousins, and same for my fiance. I wouldn't expect to get precedence over their very closest friends, who they probably see at least once a week, compared to me, who they see maybe 3-4 times a year!
If you see family a lot more often and have a way closer relationship though, I'd be taken aback too
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We were also thrown with little kids too. Well they weren’t super like toddlers, but they didn’t know us.
That’s true we do see it differently I also think me and my cousin should’ve been asked to be part of the wedding too (only since my mom had to have their mom as a bridesmaid). We used to be close when we were in schools. I still think families should be closer especially since even parts of the family they didn’t see were closer than us. I’m like ok then. I have them the farthest from me too since one of them gave me such trouble (she thinks of herself as a princess) like having split party and ceremony (plus losing my aunt on the other side of the family) wasn’t enough that she wanted to be rude to me.