Boring Bachelorette Party

It depends on what kind of day she has planned. If it's a spa day or something then I think it would be cool. If its dinner and clubbing I'd expect liquor. Lots of it.

You can definitely have a fun bachelorette party without alcohol involved. Spa day, girls night with yummy food and movies, paint night, pole dance lessons (SO FUN) and so much more.

For starters, congrats on your journey, and I'm glad you hear you're doing so wll.

I agree; a spa day, paintball, canoeing; something that doesn't focus on clubbing. It'll be fine!

Yeah, I would, in this case, try to ask for something that isn't at a bar. Do a spa day or painting!

Yeah, I would, in this case, try to ask for something that isn't at a bar. Do a spa day or painting!

At the same time... it's like, being stone cold sober while everyone around me is shitfaced is probably the last thing I feel like doing. I really don't like going to bars at this point in my recovery.

A group belly or pole dance class could potentially be a lot of fun followed by lunch/dinner somewhere totally different for you. It doesn't have to be an extended event to be a lot of fun.

Since you aren't planning it, you'll need to trust that your MOH and BMs will plan it well and plan something fun that doesn't involve alcohol. There are plenty of options!

They'll be going into it knowing you won't be drinking and because it sounds like they're all involved at some level in the planning, they'll all be aware of how much or little alcohol may be there. If someone doesn't want to come if there may not be alcohol, that's their choice. I wouldn't worry about them planning clubbing or bar hopping since they all know you're in recovery. Trust that they'll plan something fantastic!

Just reiterating what pp have stated, you don't need alcohol for a fun bachelorette party! My sister's friend went to Chick-fil-A and then to play Laser Tag and from what she told me it was a blast! Because I'm a type 1 diabetic and alcohol messes with my blood sugars something fierce, I choose not to drink, so we won't be doing the whole stereotypical bachelorette. I have complete faith that my bridal party will come up with something that reflects me and our friendships. I think the important part of such a party is to spend that time with the ladies in your life that mean the most to you, no matter what you do, I'm sure just spending time with them will be fun enough

If your friends need alcohol to have fun, there's a potentially a bigger problem there. Don't stress about this! I'm sure whatever they plan will be a blast

I love the spa day idea & what @Svetlana is suggesting sounds like a great idea too!! It sounds like your BMs are very supportive of you & more than likely keeping this in mind, I think it would be okay to just mention something to your MOH that you're not ready to be in a heavy drinking setting & would like to avoid it for the party, they will understand! Congrats & great job on your recovery thus far!

I agree with most PP

Your MoH knows about your situation so I highly doubt she will make it alcohol based.

I only drink on occasion, so I know fun can be had sans liquor. Spa days are awesome. Sight seeing. Beach/pool day. Pole dancing classes. Etc. It'll be great. Don't fret!

My bachelorette party consisted of a nice evening out at a tapas restaurant (where alcohol was available, but not the star of the show), and a paint night. I looked at it as a great way to spend a fun evening with some of my best friends rather than having a raging bender. I absolutely think you can have a rockin' party without it revolving around alcohol, and no one will be bored. And if they are, that's on them.

Congratulations, and good luck on your journey!

I feel so much better - for some reason my mind got hung up on the idea that a bachelorette party = heavy drinking. I'm like slapping my forehead like, duh, of course we could do a spa day or hit the arcade or beach or something. I guess I'm still adjusting to sober life - I used to make any excuse to drink and every activity I participated in involved at least a little bit of drinking. Just gotta reframe.

I am currently planning a bachelorette party for my friend who just is not a drinker. We are planning a nice chill day by the pool and having a mobile spa come in. Will there be alcohol? Yes, but we all know the bride and her style so it will be very casual.

Trust your friends. They will plan a party that is designed for YOU! Everyone invited I hope will be just as understand and supportive and will want to celebrate you the way YOU want to be celebrated!

Nothing boring about that.. and best of luck with your journey!

I hope it's a spa day!!

I just had my bachelorette party a few weeks ago. I told my MOH that I definitely wanted something low key. We went out for a nice dinner, stayed at a hotel and then did a spa day. Everyone had a great time and I loved it! No heavy drinking or partying involved. Also, a few years ago I went to a bachelorette party in Lake Tahoe. The bride didn't drink, so we went hiking, zip lining, and had a nice dinner by the lake. It was awesome!

Well I'm pregnant, so my bach party will obviously not be alcohol centered at all.

I think a spa day, mani/pedis, blowouts together, pool party, etc would be a fun alternative. There are plenty of things you can do as a group that are fun that don't involve drinking at all.

I am sure your friends know you super well so I wouldn't be worried about them planning a party you wouldn't enjoy!

I can't drink a lot anymore do to health issues... but my bachelorette party was great! My girls all knew my issues and respected that. We did a candle making class and we had mimosas available for anyone who wanted to indulge. Next we spent the entire day at the spa and beverages were available for anyone who wanted to have some. Same with dinner. It won't be boring! It's about the company anyway, no reason to get wild crazy drunk if that's not your speed anymore!

Congrats on your journey! Do something silly where everyone will have fun w/o needing alcohol- a friend ask about what i wanted to do for my bach and i said: goat yoga and brunch...and maybe a mani/pedi after.