bm issue 3weeks before wedding

I think what you did makes sense !

I agree with PP, what you did makes complete sense. It's also nice that you were still able to remove her from your contract and also that you offered to find someone cheaper for her.

Thank y’all!! My sister said I should have just paid for her. But I Feel like that’s unfair. & I’m just second guessing myself. I will of course have to reach out first to her. She’s thrown a tantrum before over not letting her wear a big floral headpiece. I’m honestly tired of her diva Attitude and she’s only causing stress.

View Quoted Comment I can see both sides here. However I do feel that while she should save up for her Europe trip that's her decision to take a trip. So if she's choosing not to spend money on hair and makeup that I don't understand why she's expecting you to pay for it because she wants to save money for her trip. I think she has every right to say for her trip but I don't think it's on you to have to pay for her. If money is really that tight then she can do her own hair and makeup. Not once when I was a bridesmaid has the bride ever paid for my hair or makeup that's always been my cost and it cost a lot. I would say do what you feel is best but if you want to pay for her hair and makeup that is okay but I feel that her temper tantrum still was not justified and she owes you a big apology. I would say maybe meet her halfway and pay for her makeup and she can do her own hair or you pay for her hair and she can do her own makeup.

So just like you can't be mad for her booking a trip, she cannot be mad at no longer receiving services she doesn't want to pay for. Was she looking for a hand me out? That is a lot to ask for considering the bride and groom are generally pretty tapped out financially by the wedding day.

I would've just paid for the services for her and call it a day but that's just me n my opinion.

Oof. Seems like she was looking for paid hair and make up. It is not your responsibility to pay for BMs hair on top of your entire wedding cost. She knew what she signed up for, and didn't come through for you. Agreed the girl can spend her money on whatever she wants (the trip or anything else), but she first committed to you and it's dissapointing that she backed out in the first place. If it was me I'd get rid of her, but that's because I don't like flaky people and I have no tolerance for drama. If she backed out and did her own hair, that's fine. Sounds like she threw a bit of a fit that you wouldn't pay and that's NOT.

She should not expect you to pay for her. She is being selfish and can take care of herself.

Hey a wedding is time and money. And if she couldn't fillfull of what's expected of her inaddition to her knowing youll be great without her. Im sorry but you did what was best for you and its about you not her

You did the best you could! You 100% wete correct taking her off the list so that you werent held responsible paying for her services and very nice of you to try and find someone cheaper. She definitely sounds like she wanted you to pay for her services

I think you made the right choice. I agree with FH it sounds like she's trying to get you to pay for it.