At this point, I'm not sure to do. I suppose it's also worth mentioning that this particular BM has become an absentee friend over the past year in general - having stated in the past that it's difficult for her to be happy for FH and I because her boyfriend/father of their child (soon to be children) won't propose; told me months ago that she was attending my bridal shower (we even texted the week prior about it), and then she just completely ghosted. Whatever, life happens - I get it. BUT, needless to say, I'm not too distraught that she's dropping out, and I know she wouldn't be upset whatsoever if I did find someone to replace her, but I'm not sure that's the right decision either, as I don't want anyone to feel like a secondhand choice. Thoughts?