Hey all I may be getting ahead of myself here but stressing already. My husband and Is plan (we got married June 21) was to start trying for a baby when I turn 30 and that is now this is our first month trying to conceive the only problem is my best friend (whom I am standing in as a bridesmaid) is getting married In May 6 hours from where I live by car. If us trying for a baby works out the first time I think that would put me due the month if not the week of her wedding 😭😭😭. We have thought about pushing it back before we start trying but my husband and I are also both in a wedding next August states away so we’d have to essentially have to wait for that wedding to pass as well pushing our plans back 4+ months (and who knows how many months it will take). We have been together for over 10 years (got together at age 19) and are beyond ready to start this part of our lives. I know my friend will be upset (understandably so) and I will absolutely be broken hearted to miss her big day as well but I’m not sure if there will ever be the right time if we plan this around others schedules….
I’m afraid something like this would put a wedge in our friendship and I don’t want to loose her as I love her so much but I also desperately want this baby. (Like yesterday lol)
Welcoming any advice or personal experiences. Also hypothetically if I had to miss what is something so special I could do to make it up to her ?