Blusher or no Blusher

I think you should go with what makes you comfortable, and what fits with your venue/dress.

I am getting married in a cathedral with a ballgown and wanted a blusher (I'm getting a drop veil - this is like what Kate Middleton had) because I think it's a dramatic look that fits my venue and personality.

Ultimately it's up to you -- even if your mom is paying for some things if you absolutely don't like the blusher I don't think you should wear one -- try some different options on and see what you like!

But what does FH say???

@Mrs.Sasswood.... I'm cracking up! But seriously, I can't ask him, because I don't want to give away details about my dress/appearance before the wedding.

I think if you don't want one, you shouldn't wear one.

My mom wants me to wear one too, she paid for my dress and i considered wearing one, but i tried one and didn't like it. Try some on with your dress and see how you feel. I Don't that's something you should do just for your mother

So here are my two main questions, 1) is it going to be too weird or "scandalous" to get married in a church with no blusher. 2) would it be awkward for my dad to just raise the blusher when he presents me to FH?

I dont see how it would be scandalous? But I am also not very traditional. Having your dad reveal and "present" you to your FH feels weird to me. I am wearing a blusher just because I think they are pretty, lol, and will be unveiling myself. Eta: *dad

Scandalous? Lol.

I just never see the point of wearing a veil with no blusher it looks weird to me.

I'm getting married in a church without a blusher. Out of all the weddings that I've been to there in the past 6 years, I remember only one bride having one. Not scandalous at all.

Having your dad lift it after your walk is probably the most common use of the blusher. Some brides leave it over the whole ceremony until hubby lifts it, but it sounds like that's a no-go for you. Is having your dad lift it a good compromise for you and mom? It's entirely your choice but I'd think, to appease mom, I could do it for the 60-90 seconds it'd be over my face.

As far as weird or (scandalous?) ...no. Some first time brides simply don't have a blusher- or heck, even a veil! It's your call.

I will say....some may "talk" if you DID wear a blusher and had been married before. There are very very few things second brides shouldn't do (or traditionally do) that first time brides do. The blusher veil is the one thing that stands out. That's typically really a first time bride thing. But a first time bride doesn't NEED to wear one either. Make sense?

The father generally lifts the blusher or the future husband does as soon as you get to the end of the aisle. It's to verify the right person is under there have you never read the story of Jacob and how he was duped info marrying the wrong woman? Eta: if this is your 2 ND or more marriage you may Not wear a blusher.

My advice: Try some different styles and see what you like. I had a two-tier veil and had the option to wear the first layer as a blusher. Ultimately, it didn't look good on me, and I wore it with both layers back. It's not "scandalous" or "weird" to not have a blusher - as I matter of fact, I've been to quite a few weddings (both religious and civil) where the bride didn't wear a veil at all. And no one batted an eye.

1. no

2. no

So scandalous!

TreeShade has a case of the vapors!

Scandalous in the Catholic Church would be if you wore a Panini Tornei dress. They don't care if you have on a blusher or not.

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I think it would be a little awkward for him to lift it. If you must wear it down the aisle maybe let your FH lift it whenever you get up there with him? All in all, don't wear it if you don't want to or if you do, then do! Its your day!

@Robin, I think the 2nd marriage rule regarding a blusher is super outdated. Would you tell a bride who isnt a virgin they cant wear white?