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Courtney
Master December 2019

Blended families- would you do this?

Courtney, on July 12, 2019 at 9:38 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 14

I found an article today about a niece who was excluded from a wedding because she wasn't "real" family. She's a child from a previous marriage and was excluded from being a FG, let alone invited, to her step-uncle's wedding. But her younger half-sister was.

I don't come from a blended family, but my FH has an older half-brother. He was the child of a relationship between their mom and former boyfriend. My FH's fraternal grandparents always treated him no different than my fiancé. They were always treated as brothers because they ARE brothers.


You can read the story here:

Not "Real" Family

14 Comments

Latest activity by Stacey, on July 14, 2019 at 3:15 PM
  • Formerbride
    VIP June 2019
    Formerbride ·
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    Well that's awful but some people suck. I'm from a blended family. I doubt that my parents would have attended a wedding where I wasn't invited but my youngest brother was.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I would never. Most families are blended now days, I can't understand how people still get away with such behavior.

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  • Monique
    Master December 2019
    Monique ·
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    That’s so saddening that she would be treated like that. ☹️☹️
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  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
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    What a jerk! My family is blended, my brother had a different mother than myself and I can't imagine someone doing this
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Some people are like that and it sucks. My mom didn't want me inviting my step siblings. my brother wanted me to. I didn't because.. I don't know them the way he does and it isn't because we hate each other it's just purely for the reason that we just legit don't know each other like that.
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  • Kristal
    Expert February 2020
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    That is awful. There's no way I would do that, especially to a child. Don't get me wrong. there are some whom have married into my family that I don't approve of and they are not invited to my wedding but they are adults and aren't invited largely because they are toxic to a point that I don't even talk to my blood relative they married anymore. This is never something I would do to a child. Children cant help who their parents are. They deserve to be loved. If you invite her parent (and are having a wedding with children), you should invite the child. It would be like not inviting my stepdad because he's not blood. He's helping to walk me down the aisle.

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  • Katie
    Super November 2019
    Katie ·
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    I don't share a Dad with two of my three siblings but they are still in the wedding party one being my MOH and my FH has both of his step brothers on his side with one being the best man and the other is the first groomsmen. I feel family is more about who you love and not who you share blood with.
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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
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    As far as not having her as a FG, people typically have one daughter in a family but not others as a FG. And it's common to have a wedding be adults only, other than children in the wedding party. I'm not fond of that kind of arrangement, but a lot of people do it.

    But it sounds like this family went much farther--openly treating the girl as not part of the family, and disfavoring her on other occasions. That is the part I have issues with.

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  • Mandi
    Master October 2020
    Mandi ·
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    We are only inviting my fiances aunts bio children and not her step kids. BUT they are all adults, and my fiance nor myself have ever met them. And the aunt and her husband have been married several years, and the step kids, aunt and uncle and us all live in the same town. We (especially the fiance) should have met them way before now.
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  • Fany
    Devoted October 2021
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    I personally could not do that! I can slightly understand (bust still disagree with) not making her a FG, but to not invite her at all?! That’s downright impolite!
    Shame on the parents for allowing that! I can remember my aunt (dad’s younger sister) wanting my sister to be in her wedding but she didn’t want me. My mom put her foot down and said no.
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  • M
    Super June 2019
    Mary ·
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    To me there is no "half" anything. My brothers are technically half siblings but to mentheyre brothers. We don't do that half crap. It's like purposefully putting labels where there don't need to be any. So no I would never do that.
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  • Courtney
    Master December 2019
    Courtney ·
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    Me too. If I were the dad in this situation, I would hand back my invitation and say see you later. You invite all of us or none of us.

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  • Heather
    Expert October 2019
    Heather ·
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    My sisters husband had adopted his ex-wife’s son when they were married. So his adopted son is my sisters step-son. Even tho they don’t have primary custody, I still included him on the invitation, along with my niece, sister and her husband. Even tho he technically has no blood relation to anyone in the family, he’s still family and is treated as such. We treat him no differently than my niece.
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  • Stacey
    Devoted July 2020
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    I’m an older bride and embarking on this blended family world. My FH has 3 children with ex wife and I have 4 kids from my previous marriage. I love my step kids as my own. All 7 kids will be standing up for is during our wedding. I couldn’t imagine leaving a child out. I think it’s incredibly sad they did this. They should be ashamed of themselves. If my brother was remarrying and only had my 4 kids participate I would have a conversation with him about all of my kids. When you marry you accept all. I just feel
    bad for that girl, it’s sad.
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