Blended Families, how will you include the kids

My cousin and his wife got married July 2018. They both have older children from previous relationships. What they did was so sweet. They wrote vows for the kids and spoke to them at the ceremony and included them in pouring sand into a vase at the sand ceremony.

For our blended family we keep calling it "our wedding" (as in our family's wedding...not just me and FH). We have 4 children: FH has a daughter (12) and son (10) from a previous marriage, I have a daughter (5) from a previous relationship, and we have a daughter (1 1/2) together. The two oldest are a jr.bridesmaid and jr.groomsman, and the two youngest are flower girls. We will be doing a sand ceremony, as well, with all four of them (we each have our own cylinder and sand color).

View Quoted Comment Oh this is a good idea, to include her in the vows, thanks !

I am having trouble finding something to do that suits are family. So I'm just here for the advice too!

View Quoted Comment Congrats , blended families are interesting and can be challenging at times but making the kids feel included is key especially those thst don’t live in the home. I have a future step-son who will be “away” as per his mother. I was thinking of having a flask of sand for him anyway.

View Quoted Comment No problem. It was a very sweet moment.

I have a 12 year-old from a previous marriage. We are doing vows to her.

Jr bridesmaid and ring bearer

My 7 year old daughter who will be 9 when he get married will be my junior bridesmaid. I haven’t discussed it with FH yet but I’m sure he’ll be writing her vows too! He included her in the proposal and gave her a ring so i have no doubt he’ll write something for the ceremony for her too

I really don't like sand ceremonies personally for whatever reason, maybe just cause it seems like a waste of money that I could spend otherwise and I'm cheap. lol. Anyways, we are doing a tree planting ceremony we found on Pinterest. We are in the process of buying a house right now before our August wedding so then we will plant it at the new house once we're all moved in. Our pastor has a nice little thing to say with it about how you have to care for your tree for it to grow properly just like we need to care for our relationships with eachother as a family to help us strengthen over time and withstand any storms that may occur in our lives. The tree will be in a nice galvanized pot, future hubby and I will poor a small amount of potting soil on and then the kids will have mini watering cans to pour on top. I should probably mention to that future hubby used to be a logger and most of our décor and such revolves around trees so for us it made perfect sense and was something different.

We braided ribbon with our three kids. It turned out wonderfully. We each chose the ribbon we liked best, and then after my hubby and I did our unity bit, we had the five of us up there to do it. I think it was beautiful, but I was obsessed with the whole ceremony. Lol.

My 8 year old ( will be 9 at our wedding) will be the ring bearer.
He also asked to hold up the " Here comes the Bride " sign.
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Not sure how he will take us going on an eight day honeymoon without us....we will wait awhile to tell him...im thinking he will have a meltdown

My 11 year old is walking me down the aisle and is a Jr groomsman. My three year old will either help walk me down or be a rb with my nephew. Depends on what we decide.
my oldest has no interest at this point in any type of unity ceremony, plan to ask as we get closer. I love the tree planting idea with the watering cans!

I love of the ideas! Congrats again ladies 🎉

My FH has 7 kids. Three biological, one he adopted, and 3 step from his first marriage he still considers his. I would love to include them all if I could, but sadly most aren't accepting of the fact we're getting married. That want him with their mom even though they were divorced 10 years before he and I got together. One son is a groomsman. I may ask one of his other two sons to give me away. Those are the three that are accepting of me. His adopted daughter was supposed to be a bridesmaid but created drama and she's out. I want them all to be a part.

I have 3 boys and my FH has 3 girls ages 10-18. They are our brides maids and grooms men. We each picked one friend for the BM and MOH. They are also "marrying" eachother so I thought it would be fitting if they were in the bridal party

I have two daughters (12 and 8) they will walk down with my fiance's sister and stand up with my bridesmaids. I guess they would be called jr. bridesmaids.

My daughters (12 and 14) are going to be my Maids of Honor

This spring my daughter turns 13 and my son turns 12. They'll be 14 and 13 when I marry. My fiancé asked my daughter's permission to ask me on a date. We met because he was a coach at a goalie camp my daughter attends. After a few months of dating, he asked my kids if it was okay to make things offical with me. A month before he proposed, he asked my kids if they were okay with him asking me to marry him. We decided that since we both valued their opinion on matters, that they would walk me down the aisle. I'm a grown woman, and my father has had no say in my life for years now. I think it's only appropriate since we're becoming a family, that they do this. I guess it strays from tradition a bit, especially since it's my first marriage, but it's going to be pretty up there on highlights of our big day!

My son will have just turned 12, and he is going to walk me down the isle and stand by my side. We opted to forgo a bridal party, as he is the most important person I need by my side. My fiancé doesn’t have any children of his own, but he loves my son and feels the same way.