On our invites we had written "formal attire". Our research was that formal attire meant suits and cocktail dresses. People are asking if people have to wear tuxedos and gowns. Were we wrong to put formal?
You were wrong to put 'formal' if that ISN'T what you want, but otherwise, I don't see the issue.
Black tie means tuxedos and gowns, not formal. We put Black Tie Attire on our invites so that people come very nicely dressed. We aren't pushing for tuxedos and gowns but have included it so that the people who would ordinarily come under dressed are hopefully dressed formally
Two different meanings. Our event will be Creative Black Tie which is on our invite. It's more relaxed than the normal strict black tie event. We will have a Dress Code page on our website with photos and descriptions for anyone who is confused.
I would clarify it on your wedding website so that people will know. Attire requests should never go on the invitations, but can be suggested on the website. Formal means suits/tuxes and full length dresses which is a large ask. Cocktail attire is what you want.
I don’t really see an issue either if formal attire was what you intended
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Black tie means tuxes and gowns, and it is a big ask of guests. If you just want people to dress nicely, indicate that by the formality of the invitations and venue. Also, we just have to accept that some people will never get appropriate attire and move on
I find this confusing also as I interpret "formal" and "black tie" as very different things. I didn't list attire on my invites, however, my website does suggest formal attire. To me, this means a suit and tie for men and a long dress or fancy cocktail dress. I interpret black tie as a tuxedo and ballgown. Online it seems like a lot of people use these interchangeably - very confusing.
That's exactly how FH and I interpret formal as well. We don't have a wedding website so that is the only reason we had put the attire on the invite. Plus we know people would ask anyway. If you google black tie vs formal attire, what comes up is how me and you think of formal. That's what we went off of. Our wedding is at a really nice golf club so I didn't want people just showing up not dressed nicely.
We’re listing “cocktail attire” because that’s pretty clear and cuts the confusion regarding “formal”, etc. I figured that if I want our guests to wear cocktail dresses/suit jackets then I may as well flat-out list that.
We didn’t list an attire on our invitation, but we put “cocktail attire” on our wedding website. I actually have never seen “formal” as a wedding attire classification before. Typically I see “cocktail attire” or “black tie”. As a guest, I would not take formal to mean black tie. I would take it to mean more of a cocktail attire.
We are doing creative black tie which is not as strict as dark gowns and only tuxes. Formal is more suits and dresses. It does encompass black-tie too though! Like PP have said maybe putting it on the website to help clarify things to people may help with the confusion??
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Yeah true. We don't have a wedding website only because everyone is local and we didn't think we needed information like that. We did our research on attire and thought that was the best fit.