Bittersweet missing yearly vacation because of honeymoon

How very lucky that you had all those years of being able to take a vacation with your friend group. Most do not have that luxury.

Focus on the good and try to move on. Being sad over a missing vacation because you're going on another vacation is the epitome of first world problems.

I'm mostly kind of sad that we are pushing our honeymoon out til next year since my FH doesn't get enough PTO to cover time off for the wedding and a honeymoon in the same year. We also probably won't be able to travel to see his family for the holidays because of his lack of PTO.

My friend group did a vacation last year which was wonderful. We are all excited to when we can do another one with our significant others and have talked about options for when we start having kids. But honestly, our next group vacation probably won't be until 2021 when everyone has some vacation time to spare.

I'm getting married in September and having a honeymoon, but we still took our yearly 4th of July week long vacation. I'm a bit strapped for PTO now, but I didn't want to miss it.

I'm sad about it too! It's the first year we all had enough PTO to go for a week long trip and might be our last. I think it's fine to realize were moving on to a new chapter and mourn our old habits. It shows you appreciate your friends and the quality time with them.

Feel no shame! Its an ending to how your life was before you get married and start a family and there is nothing wrong with feeling a little sad about it. Yes, I would try to focus on all the positive things that are happening instead. We are skipping a trip to see my brother who lives 2 stares over because we don't have the extra money and my parents and brother are planning a vacation together that we will not be apart of because it's to soon after our honeymoon. And yes, it's a little sad. Feel a little sad about it if you want but try your best to enjoy your trip this year and focus on positive things.

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Yes! I agree I think it's totally about moving to a new chapter and kind of mourning the old one. I'm sure the next adventures (a week long honeymoon vacation on our own, possibly a vacation while pregnant, with kids, etc) will all be awesome too. It's just different!

We enjoy traveling and take a vacation every year. Next year's vacation will be our honeymoon and it'll be longer than normal since our plan is to visit Japan and Taiwan. My mother's from Taiwan and I'd like FH to meet my family there and he's excited to visit Asia. I went to Japan almost 20 years ago and would like to go back again-- a friend of mine lives there and she's helping us plan the Japan portion of our trip. We've gone on Disney, beach, city vacations, and a several road trips thus far- a cruise is the only thing we haven't done together and we'd like to go one day!